AZ trip
Day 1
September 12-13
Got to house. She gave me a quick tour and then she went to sleep.
Saturday 13
Breakfast: English muffin
Painted her oldest room
Her mom came over to drop the baby off. So I got to meet her mom, nice lady and her baby. He doesn’t have even 20 words of vocabulary at 2 years old. She’s getting a referral for home intervention. …
We went to some stores and went out for dinner. She doesn’t eat lunch at all. Not sure how this is going to work out lol. Come dinner, I was starving. We went to Olive Garden. Good as always. Funny, it’s the 7th state I’ve eaten at an Olive Garden.
On the way home, she stopped at her man’s house and ran in. He wanted to see her. He actually “invited” us to spend the night at his house and I could sleep on his couch. She was like “fuck no. I have company” she said that he was “being a girl” all “bitchy”. I think he was just jealous. I don’t know why. He’s the one who is having sex with her at least 2 nights a week. The closest I get is a nice hug. (and what a nice body she does have) And while I’m on the topic… Her voice,
We came back to the house and she finished painting one of the bedrooms as I was playing with the baby. Once the baby went to sleep, we went down stairs to sit on her couch so she could do some homework. I helped her with some research. Once that was done we went up to bed. Her and her room and me in her daughter’s room.
not much here. help unscrew outlet covers, kept Dom company while she painted an entire room. met her mom and her youngest. Played with baby (2 min vocabulary) went for dinner and some stores. heard her complain about her man.
Just like in Indiana, I remember why I want a girlfriend-wife so bad. it is just so fun having someone around to talk to, to do things with, to do projects with...I even helped her with some of her homework. Unfortunately for me (besides a lot of things) she has such a cute-sexy voice to me. OH and she even sings along with the radio. I love when girls do that. ...even if it is country music
I'm trying but she is so amazing with me. she's a talker, which is great for me. She'll point out things, like when we are driving and she sees something that is interesting to her, like a bumper sticker, or how there was 2 home depoes in less than a mile from each other. it's refreshing for me.
but again, just spending time reinforces how much I want a special lady and how much I would treat the woman like the princess she would be in my eye-mind , heart and soul.
I love kids, she ran into her man's house for about 10 minutes and left me in the car with the baby and the baby started crying to I turned around and gently rubs his leg and said "mama will be right out" and he calmed down. then he had velcro sneakers, so he would undo them and I would be like "don't do that don't do that" in a sing-song silly voice and Velcro it back up and we would do that for about half the time. and he would be giggling every time. He loved loved loved the toy truck I bought him. there's a button on top that made 3 dif sounds.
and tomorrow I get to meet her other two kids.
Sunday September 14th, DAY 2
Only got 4 hrs of sleep again…oh well.
So eastern time I went to bed at 3:30 and woke at 7:30…west time? I went to sleep at 12:30 and woke at 4:30 ug lol.
We went right back to working on the rooms when she woke and the baby was still sleeping. (she woke about 7…10 eastern time) and I screwed all the outlets, light switch and cable fictures back in.
She got me a bowl of Cherios for breakfast. I went and took a shower while she got the baby ready. When all was good, we went out to Target, which was ginormous compared to the ones near me. She did her food shopping there. I thought that’s what grocery stores were for, silly me. We spent about 45 minutes in there. We had the baby, he was good. I was keeping him entertained as I was pushing the carage and Dominique was steering it. We check out of there and went to the bank…well, we went through the drive through.
We went back to the house and at some point, the baby and I took a nap. Woke up and at 1pm (West time) She made me hotdogs. The baby sorta ate with me too.
From there, I was playing with the baby a bit when her mom came over to help touch up the room she did the day before while Dom paints her daughter’s room and I’m playing with the baby for 2! Yes 2 hours. At one point her mom says to me “You come out for a vacation and ended up watching a baby” (in a sympathy tone) I hear Dominique talking and laughing to someone on the phone, and it’s her man. She was on the phone with him for about an hour. Her mom says “is she on the phone?” I said “either that or she’s talking to herself.” Mom” she’s probably talking to herself” “she’s talking to her toy man” (I think that’s what she said lol) I just growned.
At some point before her mom came, we moved everything from her daughter’s room to her room, including the mattress. I thought it was kinda funny…I figured we would just pick up the mattress, it was only a twin size. So I picked up my half and she was pushing her half.
When Dominique was ready, she called me to go help her. She said that we’re going to bring her older son’s bed up from the garage. She tells me the head board and food board are already up there, she just needs to get the other pieces, the long pieces of wood. So we made about 3 trips, from the garage, through her the hall way, up a flight of stairs and against ehe wall next to the bedroom. She has more trust in me than I think I have. Lol. These wood boards are 6 ft long. I could have broke something along the way or even proke a board. We then put the bed together. I was holding the parts up-together as she started the screws and then I finished them…as she went and called her man back.
Dominique had to pick up her other two kids and she told me that he’s a jerk and wouldn’t want to subject me to him, She said that she would be back with the kids and pizza at 7. It was 5. I said, ok. And sat on the couch, on my computer till 7.
*from here…I’ll give you it from my view and then what probably? Really happened
She came in with her two oldest and they ran right up stairs to check out their bedrooms. I told Dominique I would give them my gifts after dinner. She said that would be good. The kids came back down and Dominique introduced them to me, as “(daughter’s name) I want you to meet Jonathan. And then (son’s name) say hi to Jonathan. Once the kids and I were dished our plates of pizza, she ran up to make thebed I would be sleeping in…the one I put together, and moved all my stuff into the room too. She came down and told the kids to get their PJ’s on. They went up and did that. then I gave them gifts.
I knew her little boy likes to draw, so I got him a drawing kit that comes with a carrying case. It has a bunch of markets and a pad of paper. But in the case, when you open it, all the markers are all in these holders, so they don’t fall out of the case. And a place for the paper, so could refill. He was so excited about it and telling dom all the markers and when she saw the type of markers, she told me that it was the type his teacher allows…or something. Then I gave her daughter her gift.
I knew she liked Disney princess but couldn’t really find anything but then I had a second thought when I was heading towards the checkout with my other stuff… I know she likes to play make-beleave tea so I find a very cute tea party set.
I put the bag in front of her and waited for her to look inside. Dom said “she’s waiting for you to take it out” I said, “it’s yours. You can take it out.” and she did and she was like.. “wow!” Dominique “what is it baby? Let me see?” “it’s a tea set! just like at nana’s but this one is better because (whatever her reason was) Dominique started opening the box for her and cutting away the plastic ties, that ties the pieces to the box.) I told her daughter that it plays music. So she pressed the button and it was “I’m a little tea pot”it also plays “let the medicine go down” and a couple more. Dom said “you should make Jonathan some tea” and went back up stairs for a few minutes. I asked “are you going to make me some tea?” “I don’t know how” (in a sad tone) I said “press the button. and when the song is over, the tea is ready” so she pressed the button. Dominique said “what about the cupcakes? Jonathan wants one” so she gave me one and I pretended to be eating it, making “yumumumum” sounds. Then she made me hot coco. I said I don’t want hot chocolate (in a silly tone) I’m already hot. So she made me chocolate milk. Then she made coffee. I said I don’t like coffee.
D: just drink it.
J: ok, (slerp) grose! This is coffee! I don’t like coffee!
(she was giggling 
J: can I have tea please?
D: ok. …here you go.
J: Iiisss this coffeeee?
D: giggles) just drink it
J: ok, *slirp* It’s still coffee. I don’t like coffee. (turned the cup away from me to the side as if I was emptying the cup)
(by this time, Dominique and her son were giggling too)
…so this went on for a few minutes. Dom said “5 more minutes and we have to go.”
When that 5 mins were up. she said ok, kids, time to go. And said to me, “if I don’t see you tonight, I’ll see you in the morning” I was confused. Figured I would go with her for the ride to her parent’s house. And I just said in a confused voice… “oohh, ok”
So now I’m starting to connect dots. Her man wanted her to stay over the night before but she told him no, Jonathan was here. He said that I could sleep on his couch. She was surprised, I was shocked when she told me what he wanted to do. Plus she didn’t eat pizza with us and instead, made up my bed and moved all my stuff to her son’s room where I’d be sleeping and now she tells me that she maynot be home till morning.
What would you be thinking?
I’m thinking, so you are lying to me about going to see him. not to mention, although I thought a lot about it so will mention it, tomorrow, Monday, you’ll be going to school and work till 5 so in a 24 hr spand, I’ll be alone. Sounds fucking fantastic.
9:09
Dom: I’m about to fall asleep
J: you should be tired. You have done a lot of work the last few days.
11:09 PM
Dom:Hey
J: hi
D: I fell asleep. Go to bed. You'll be up when I'm showering and we will figure out what you need for the morning.
J: ya…ok
D: Ya ok what's that mean
J: Just feeling...IDK.  but you need to get sleep. Chat in the morning. night (Didn’t want to tell her what I was really thinking)
I could not sleep. All kind of thoughts going through my head. Didn’t get to sleep till after 1AM (4AM EST)
However, a bit before I went to sleep, I saw her mom post on Dom’s FB a pic of the kids with her father. She commented on it. Her comment makes me believe that she never did go to her man’s house, but I don’t know that for sure.
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Monday, sept 15 day 3.
D: Good mornings sleepy. I left for school and work. I left plates, silverware vas napkins on counter with a cup. Water is in door your juice is bottom shelf. I left bread and toaster out. Jelly is in door toward right middle. Your towel is on shower rod. Pizza is on top shelf with jalapeños to the left. I should be home around 430 then we can put together my daughter’s room. The girl is back today to train me is I'll text as much as I can. Let me know if I missed anything and let me know why you are feeling blah.
J: Good morning. your description of where everything is makes me want to cry...it's so perfect thank you.
D: Did you need anything else? I put out what I thought you would need
J: Lol nope, not that I can think of. Hope you have a good day
J: Sam (baseball guy) wanted to know some place we could meet up. He is off tomorrow so was even willing to pick me up at your house. I thought as nice as that is, you wouldn’t feel comfortable with that so I told himthe truth and said that he would never find it because not on a map yet. So somewhere between your house and phx, let me know where a good place is to meet him. do NOT need to know asap, just sometime today
*She responded and after a few messages, we got that figured out and I FB Sam and he’ll get back to me tonight. .
D: How's it going
J: Alright lol. showered and had breakfast. Feeling my way around the kitchen, I can visualize it, so now I know where everything is the sink, fridge, stove, as it relates to each other hope ur doing ok
D: Well let me know if you're not sure of anything
J: I will but your first text this morning was very descriptive
D: I didn't think it was
J: And that's one reason why I appreciate you
D: Not sure I understand
J: The little things that you do for-with me, is so far from what everyone else does so when you do them, they are so unexpected it's like... wow, she told me exactly where the pizza is and the jalapenos. My fam would just say "it's in the fridge, you're a big boy, you can figure it out". sorta demeanering
D: Oh lol I just figured that was normal
J: Nah, far from it.
D: Well I dunno what to say then
J: You don’t have to say anything... just continue being you
D: Ok will do lol
So then about 1PM ESTtT I had lunch, the left over pizza. I took the box out of the fridge with the jalapenos in the other hand. As I was closing the door, I heard 3 consecutive “beeps” hmm maybe I didn’t close the fridge properly?
I put the pizza down and went back and in this time, the beeps came again. So I hopen and close both the fridge and freezer sections. That didn’t do anything. So now I’m confused, trying to figure out where that beeping is coming from and in the mean time, it’s driving me nuts. I’m walking around the kitchen, around the dining room area but it’s too quiet over there. I walk back into the kitchen. I stand in front of the fridge. It’s to the right. I take a step to the right. It’s still to my right. I go over to where the sound is coming from and I find a box that is plugged in. I unplug it, before I get a head ache. I go and send Dom a message, letting her know. She said
D: Oh no plug back in lol. That's the power box just low on credit which is why I need to pay it. I prepay power. Just hit the bottom button to cycle display. I'll stop and pay on way home today to load more on it
J: done, will tell you story when you get home. It’s funny
D: Ok I won't be able to stay long. Have to do daughter’s room later tonight I'll stop and get chick Fil a for dinner with all the sauces for you to try
J: sounds good. (so much for spending time with her…)
I got so bored sitting on this couch. I got up and wiped down her counters. I could not believe how many crumbs she had. Then I washed off the top of her stove. At one point, I was looking for something to do so went up to the kid’s play room and was going to pick up a bit but after picking up two cars I said…what the hell am I doing? and went back to the couch.
She came in around 4:30, she told me that her son last night, was talking about the differences between frogs and todes and she said “I don’t care and I have no idea why he was talking about that. where would he learn the differences anyways? “ I chuckled and just said, “what does it matter?” She said well, it doesn’t. but then this morning, you know how there’s a little step up at my front door? Well when I was out there, there was this huge ass frong sitting right there. I thought it was dead. I went over to the contracters who were working next door and asked if they could do me a really big favor. They said what is it? She asked if they could get rid of the frog. And explained where it was. They said sure. “I thought you were going to ask me to keep it down. I can just get a board and move it to the dumspter.” She said that when she turned around, the frog was hopping around. I guess it wasn’t dead after all. It did take a few to capture it but they moved it. … as she is munching on chips.
I told her my story about the power indicator driving me crazy. She thought it was funny.
We went up stairs and I put all the outlets fictures back into her daughter’s room. Help her put her daughter’s bed together and bring in the mattress. We came down to chill on the couch together for a few minutes before 5:30 came and she had to go pick up the kid. She complained how she spends an hour to go down and an hour back almost every day to get her kids.
She said that tomorrow we can do the office. I told her the earlier she starts, the more I can help. She said “I know”
And she asked me if I heard from the baseball guy. I said no, he cant check his phone or FB. She asked how many hours does he work today, I don’t know but he told me he works about 80 hrs a week and Tuesday is his only day off.
And I didn’t mention it but she didn’t comment about the clean kitchen. Ug.
I did explain to her, how she had left for 24 hrs and I got to spend an hr of that time with her. she first said "I spent all day with you yesterday?" (hmm meaning in the house together?) I said from 5PM yesterday till 5pm today, the only time I spent with you is when you brought the kids home for an hour. (which, even at that, she spent half that time putting my sheets on the bed for me and moving my stuff from her room to her son's room) she said, well, even if I did come home last night, I would have just went to sleep as soon as I got in. (which is true) When she was talking about going to pick up the kids she said, I don't know how I am going to do this 3 days a week. It takes an hour to get down there and an hour back. So that’s 2 hours a day just driving.
Then she informed me that she has to go to school on Wednesday morning from 7 to 8:15. She said you knew I had school? I just said ya...I know.
so from 5pm sunday till 8pm Monday I would only have been in the same place with her for 2 hours of that 27 hrs.
She said: you could have went to my parents' today.
I said: I know, but I'm here to spend time with you, not them.
I said, (and didn't mean it 100%) I don't want to make you upset or anything, that's just, what I'm feeling and thinking.
she said, I know
She said it’s 5:30. Do you want me to put the TV on for you or something?
I said no, I have my computer.
She said: ok, well, I’ll be back at 8 o’clock.
So… here I am, 7:30 and going to post this now.
Sorry for lack of spell check and proof reading.
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