Am I "blind" or just too nice? Thoughts appreciated

I think you handled it well. However, I don't think your boss was wrong in feeling remorse in her wording. In a professional setting, proofreading should ALWAYS be done. The fact that she could insert something like "gosh that sounds mean" instead of just replacing "the blind guy" with "the guy at the counseling center" is baffling to me. As someone that isn't a regular reader and doesn't know what sort of job you have, I can't really say whether it was appropriate or not... but... it seems like it would have saved herself a headache to just re-read the email and fix it before hitting 'send!' Also, overall, like I said I don't know what sort of job you have or how formal it is but people that don't use punctuation in a work setting really irk me, heh. But she did seem sincerely apologetic and I don't think taking it to her supervisor or higher authority is necessary.

mixie

I'm actually a tiny bit confused. A little more background, maybe the boss's original "rude" email might help me a little more.
But in general, you're a very nice guy who is always willing to help others. That of course, isn't "too" nice but just the right amount of nice.

If you weren't offended by it then, I wouldn't worry. You know your boss better than anyone of us, so I'm sure you know if they were being offensive ... Just from reading this though ...to me it doesn't sound like they were.

Hope Rising

I think you handled it really well. I didn't see any problem with it at all.

I WOULDN'T BE FURIOUS. I MEAN, BEING BLIND IS UNUSUAL - OF COURSE PEOPLE WILL KNOW YOU AS THE 'BLIND GUY', AS WELL AS BY YOUR PERSONALITY WHEN THEY GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER. BUT WHAT I FIND ODD IS THE FACT THIS PERSON WROTE 'the blind relief- gosh that sounds mean, sry- guy that was at the counseling centerr'. I MEAN, IF SHE WAS TALKING THAT WOULD MAKE SENSE, BUT IT WAS AN EMAIL. WITH TYPING, UNLIKE WITH TALKING, THERE IS A DELETE OPTION! IF SHE'D REALLY THOUGHT IT SOUNDED MEAN, SHE COULD HAVE SIMPLY DELETED THE 'THE BLIND RELIEF' PART, AND WRITTEN 'THE GUY WHO WAS WAS AT THE COUNSELLING CENTRE'. IT'S LIKE SHE WANTED TO WRITE THAT YOU WERE THE BLIND GUY, BUT ALSO EXPRESS AWARENESS OF THE FACT THAT IT IS POLITICALLY INCORRECT TO DO SO. BUT THE THING IS TOO, SHE HAS TO MENTION YOUR BLINDNESS FOR A FUTURE SUPERVISOR - LIKE THEY'D NEED TO BE AWARE TO MAKE ACCOMMODATIONS. SO THE WHOLE 'SRY THAT SOUNDS MEAN' IS A BIT OF A CHILDISH WAY TO DEAL WITH IT. I'D SAY HER WRITTEN COMMUNICATION SKILLS AREN'T VERY GOOD (USING 'GOSH' IN PROFESSIONAL COMMUNICATION IS A BIT ODD TOO!). A BETTER EMAIL WOULD HAVE INITIALLY REFERRED TO YOU AS THE GUY (WELL, 'MAN', NOT 'GUY', TO BE PROFESSIONAL ABOUT IT!) AT THE COUNSELLING CENTRE, AND THEN GONE ON TO MENTION YOUR BLINDNESS AS SOMETHING THEY NEED TO BE AWARE OF (ALTHOUGH, STRICTLY SPEAKING, THAT IS SOMETHING FOR YOU, NOT HER, TO DISCLOSE). HONESTLY, I THINK SHE MADE HERSELF LOOK A BIT OF A FOOL IN THAT EMAIL, RATHER THAN DEMEANING YOU.
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I have to agree with puck.

her email wasnt very professional

♥Lacy

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Yes, you are too nice...
But that does not apply in this situation.
It may not have been the most professional thing for her to do, but if she was simply using your blindness as a reference point for those who know you as 'the blind guy' then she was not intending to be insulting or degrating. Saying that you are the blind guy is like saying that I am the girl with the bad back. Does that mean that you are not Jonathan? Or that I am not Jodi? Nope. Those are characteristics. Sometimes we use race as the reference point, sometimes it is weight... You get my drift.
As long as you weren't offended, that's all that matters.
And I really hope that you're able to get someone to supervise you. At least she's trying to assit you, which is better than being a huge bitch and not doing anything for you at all, right? lol

~*Jodi*~

you handled it well dear the problem with our society right now is that we've become to hypersensitive to the idea of sounding like we're discriminating against someone or offending them that we end up not dealing with the real cases. I think you realize that and you are such an awesome guy

angel.without.wings

OH YES, YO, I AGREE. SHE HAD TO DISTINGUISH YOU. ALTHOUGH SAYING 'THE BLIND GUY, OOPS, WAIT, THAT SOUNDS RUDE, SRY, I MEAN THE GUY IN THE COUNSELLING CENTRE' ISN'T REALLY THE BEST WAY OF DOING IT! MAYBE SOMETHING LIKE 'REMEMBER THE RELIEF STAFF IN THE COUNSELLING CENTRE WHO WAS BLIND?'
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RYC; I don't think I would be offended if they called me 'the girl in the wheelchair' but I would tell them in the future that I would like to be referred to as Lacy and my position that I work as. lol I don't like when people single me out because of my disability. I could see her maybe telling someone that face to face, but like Puck said, it's an email, she could have worded it better and left out the whole blind thing.

♥Lacy

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