Shafted again and again. it hurts

01/16/2014

I'm not really sure where to start this story.

When is a date not a date? When the person texts you to say their x is back in the picture.
I chatted with her last week and this week I just knew something was up. Everyone was saying that she's probably busy. I wasn't so sure. I had sent her 5 text messages. 3 of them were returned with 1 word responses. Some people told me that it's normal while others said that she's busy but all told me not to worry about it.
Then came this morning. I texted her, asking if we were still on for tomorrow night. she said yes at first, then she asked me what time and then she said that her x is back in the picture and so no date.
SHAFTED! (and not in a good way)

I have this lady friend who I know from my temple. She's about 8 years older than me and she has two kids.
We go out for meals from time to time to hang out and catch up. I've taken her and her kids to a few ballgames over the years. I also talked to her about HER on both the good side and the painful fall. Well, since last May, whenever we make plans to go out, something comes up. Most of the time it was her having to go to her son's school for something but other times has been that her mom through out her back so she had to help her mom and one time it was that she was going to NY so had to break our dinner plans. Two weeks before new years we were suppose to go out, that's when her mom through out her back so she said that she would promise to go out with me on January 2 and she would even put it on her calendar. ...I'm still waiting to go out. Shafted by a friend? yup.

My college roommate, who is a fun but a bit strange in the I'm 33 but act like I'm younger than my twin 9 year old girls...His wife defanately not only wears the pants and brings home more bacon, but has him by the balls

Last year (2012-2013) I went over their house for new years. They invited another couple over with their kids. For dinner we got Chinese food. My friend knows what I like so ordered for me. When it came time to give him money, I was not happy. Everyone else was eating the same food (which I would have eaten) and so they split the cost. my friend got me all my own stuff and so I paid for what he ordered for me which was a hella lot more than I needed. (I don't think I'm making my point here)The two couples split the bill and I ad my own bill which was more than each couple was paying.

Then they watched movies that I had no interest in. I just sat there as they were talking about the movies. BORING

Fast forward to this new years. I got the same invite and he told me the other couple were coming too with their kids. I was like ok. A week before we were chatting and he said that they're going to be playing cards all night. I was like...ummm ok?
in my head I was thinking, you know I cant play cards. Why would you have that as the entertainment of the night if you are going to invite me over?
If that wasn't bad enough, he said to me "we're going to have Mexican", you do like Mexican, right?" (he knows I don't. Whenever they had it in college it smelled so bad in the kitchen I would eat before they started cooking... I said what's the other option? he goes "the other option is to stay home"
So they are going to eat food I don't like and play cards which I cant do. Does that sound like fun to you?

Two days before new years , I was sick and comptemplating not going. I had an excuse, I was sick and didn't want to get anyone else sick.
I wrote him and his wife an email, saying that I was sorry but I had a really bad cough and didn't feel well. I didn't want to get anyone sick. I don't think he believed me. Especially when later on that week when he called me and said "I saw you were out with John on the Wednesday?" I said, yup, pretty much against my will. He didn't care that I was sick. His kids were already sick.so it didn't matter.

Fast forward to this week. We planned on me coming this weekend as it was a long weekend and he and his wife both had off. We planned what were going to do then I got an FB message from him Monday saying that this weekend wont be good, they have 2 b day parties and a CCD event. ... ummm and you wre just finding out about this now? SHAFTED!

So no date Friday night. Not going to see my roommaye. and today I found out that a work staff meeting for Monday was called off because it's a holiday.

So I went from having a very packed log weekend to well, I guess I'll be home watching the football gmes on Sunday by myself.

my sister is going over a friend of hers. my older bro is going to a restaurant with a friend of his and my twin never replied to my email.

John is going to be in Japan for work but he doesn't like sports anyways.

And of course the biggest case of being shafted still hurts and still makes me sad and angry.
I still think of her 3 -5 times a day.

Where can I find friends? What is a friend anyways? I thought being there for people, being understanding, caring, thoughtful, honest, loyal, trusting and comunacate, being there for one another through the good and bad times.makes for a friend. I guess I was wrong.

Better yet, how about a lady who enjoys sports? That would kill two birds with one stone.