This entry is about boy-girl relationships for Christians. If you are not a mature Christian strong in your relationship with God, I do not recommend reading this (because you will probably misunderstand).
It was late 2002 to early 2003. I was living in the Bay Area (California) when I met this girl. I'll just use her initials here - MC. Until this day, I still think she is the most beautiful girl I've ever met. I don't believe in love at first sight, but if "love at first sight" is real, she would've been the closest thing to it. The attraction was apparently mutual.
Back then, I was in my 20's living alone in suburban California. Right near my apartment complex was a shopping area. There was a restaurant there that I frequent. At around late 2002 or early 2003, MC started working at this restaurant. She just graduated high school and was taking a break and looking into which college to go to. One day, I walked into the restaurant for lunch (as I often do) and she was sitting there on her lunch break (having lunch by herself). When we saw eachother, we smiled at eachother. So I asked her if I could join her for lunch.
"Sure," she answered.
I normally don't approach girls like this, at least not after my spiritual awakening of 2002 (after the realization that I cannot be with a girl who does not love God.) However, something compelled me to join her for lunch when I saw her. That was the first time I had a real conversation with her and got to know her a little bit more. One of the most important questions I asked her was about her faith. Although her mother is Catholic, she was not truly a Christian.
For the next few months, I continue to frequent the restaurant as I normally do and have spoken with her here and there. The mutual attraction between us was apparent, but I did not act. She on one occasion hinted indirectly to me to ask her out. What really attracted me to MC was how she apparently took extra care of me more than her other customers. It would've been great if she had a relationship with God like I do. Unfortunately, she didn't. A relationship would just not work between a guy highly devoted to God and a girl who is not.
Then one Sunday at church, the preacher gave a sermon which I thought was a message from God. (I assumed what I wanted to think.) Simply put, here's what I thought God was telling me from the sermon. As long as the girl is willing to join me "in Canaan" (in God's kingdom) even if she originally came from elsewhere (from the world not with God), I can accept her. I was very happy to interpret the message this way.
However, shortly after hearing that and planning to act on it, I was hit with a medical condition with surgery after surgery not knowing when the surgeries would end. That condition lasted for a year before I completely recovered. I had not gone to that restaurant or seen MC during this period. At the end of the medical crisis, I had moved away (which is another story. God indicated to me through that medical crisis that I was to end the career path that I was on and start anew in New York.)
I still remember MC and I realize God allowed my path to cross with MC at that time to teach me something. But the child in me sometimes still thinks how nice it would've been if MC and I became a couple.
Looking back at the memory of MC (in addition to some other experiences), I am so much more clear on how the girl for me would be like. When I meet that girl, I will now know (with the memory of MC in addition to other past experiences in the back of my mind and with the guidance of God.)
You may be asking, why did MC come into my mind just now. I was watching the "Vampire Diaries" (TV show) on the web. Nina Dobrev (Elena) on that show looks like MC. MC looks somewhat like Nina Dobrev and also somewhat like the girl from the movie "She's All That"
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