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~♥ Today I'm Thankful For... A new year and new possibilites!
~♥ On My Blog: I've been updating the Facebook page but not the blog recently.
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Gosh it's been so long I wasn't even sure I'd remember how to update! We went without internet at home the last year and getting to the library to update wasn't always possible. I used my phone for all my internet needs and that is not easy to update on at all. Last year was crazy. I made friends with 2 different people who turned out to be absolutely nuts. The first one I met the year before on the local swap groups and she was battling cancer. I felt for her of course, and we had enough in common that we clicked. She was declared in remission early in 2014 but didn't seem to really appreciate it. She constantly focused on the hardships of her life. I looked past it because I couldn't even begin to understand what she went through. Her family (husband and 3 kids, one of which was living with her father) kept having money issues all year. We got to know them a lot better starting Halloween night. They invited us to go trick or treating and her husband said some weight things, like them pimping out his wife to pay bills and him being willing to sell himself if he could... I honestly thought they were joking. He also said that girls make a lot of money in just a month at the Bunny Ranch in Vegas. I thought he was just a perv.
The week before Thanksgiving we got in a car accident and our car was total (more about that later) and she drove us around. In that week I found out WAY more than I wanted to know! Turns out her husband had actually had her sell herself before and told her to do it often. Her kids were NEVER in car seats in their car and her kids told my daughter, who was in a car seat always, that they couldn't afford them. Yet the husband could afford cigarettes and they had hundreds of DVD's! Their house was covered in dog urine and feces. We hadn't been to it before and we were so grossed out! The kids told my daughter that they didn't walk their dogs ever because it was too hard... Meaning they were lazy and would rather live in filth. The dogs were Chihuahuas so they weren't hard to walk physically. And she constantly put herself down and played the pity party. When I tried to talk to her about it she went off and left the group we were running together, and unfriended me on Facebook. After that she also bad mouthed me on the Facebook groups to people she used to talk badly about all the time. She basically turned out to be a very messed up person and a very unhealthy friend. I was glad to have the friendship over.
During the summer months a new lady moved in next door, an older lady. We started getting to know her a little and I thought we finally had an awesome neighbor and friend. She had some moments that seemed off, like the 2 weeks we didn't see her at all. It wasn't until October we started spending more time with her. And then I started seeing more personality flaws that I overlooked because she's older and I brushed it off. We had an incident the week of Thanksgiving where we didn't talk the whole week because of her behavior. She had been texting me to apologize and work it out but they all went to my spam folder so it wasn't until the week after Thanksgiving that I found them. We worked things out and I forgave her for her rude behavior. After our accident she let us use her car a lot since she didn't use it much. It was a huge help to us but it also put us a lot closer with her on a more frequent basis. I really began to see issues with her then. She would get really rude and mean sometimes for no reason. She was extremely hard on my daughter and wanted her to sit quietly every time we went over. My daughter began to act out some because she was unhappy and miserable. So we had a lot of frustration with her. On top of that, she came over constantly so we felt like we never really got a break from her.
At one point she actually stole in front of my daughter and I, and I was pissed! She scanned only one shirt and put two in the bag. My daughter saw it all and I told her we weren't going to be around her with her doing that. She apologized and promised not to do it anymore. So again, I gave her another chance. She literally had no one. She had 2 friends, one of which worked at a food bank she went to and the other a lady she met at the craft show and thought she was annoying. Her son was in another state and even her mother didn't want to be around her. So I felt bad for her. But there was a reason she didn't have anyone. Closer to Christmas she kept getting worse. She was really awful to us several times. I finally had enough and told her just that. She went off on us and it all went to hell from there. She would not admit anything she did was wrong or that she needed help. Tons of people in the complex started telling me concerning things about her, like that she wasn't taking her meds, and others were telling me she was buying and selling pills in the complex. I asked her to get help and tried to talk to her, but she just got hateful and evil. She called animal control and child protective services on us. My friends were LIVID and were all calling the CPS lady to tell her how great of a mom I am and how nuts my neighbor is. Even the previous manager here did that, she called her repeatedly and told her my neighbor is mentally disturbed. My daughter and I lived in fear and I had a panic attack every single time there was a knock on my door. I reported her to the new complex manager along with 3 other residents who she had harassed as well, but the manager only told her not to talk to any of us or she'd be evicted. That meant her other forms of harassment could continue. It was hell. I had to report her to the police but they could only deal with the text harassment and told her if she contacted me again she'd face charges. So she kept calling and falsely reporting us instead.
We lived in a nightmare the last month. I was warned not to let my daughter go out and walk our dog on the grass by herself because she might run my daughter over with her car, that's just how crazy and unstable everyone thinks she is! We now I have to check outside before leaving our apartment and try to avoid her as much as possible. I found out from a neighbor downstairs who we are now friends with that my crazy neighbor went over to her place and was checking her medicine cabinet for pills. Our former manager who is also our friend had invited us over for Christmas breakfast and nicely included her since she was alone and since we were friends with her. A full bottle of liquid morphine for her husband who's battling cancer disappeared that day.... My manager had tried to befriend her but it didn't work out because she was so unstable and erratic. Everyone in the complex had started trying to avoid her over time. I finally got to see what she was really like and why she is all alone. She needs serious help and I hope one day she finds it. In the mean time she will never be a part of our lives again. I forgive her for myself so I don't carry that bitterness and anger, but I will never forget what she did to us or how evil she really is.
Back to November, we were out delivering Thanksgiving meals to families in need when a woman ran a red light and pulled in front of my truck. I couldn't avoid hitting her but thankfully I saw it in time enough to avoid it being a lot worse. She drove in front of the drivers side so that part took the brunt of it and so did I. My daughter was in the back reading so she was relaxed and didn't get hurt as bad. The truck really protected us but it was totaled. We spent 2 months without a car and we're still battling with the insurance over our injuries. It's been a nightmare. We had a very hard few months from the end of November until February. Just this month did things start to calm down for us. We found another vehicle thankfully, a Subaru wagon. That has been a huge help to us. We're still having to deal with the issues of living here, like a horrible new manager who I think is just in it for the pay and free apartment. We are hoping with our last insurance settlement we can get a small trailer and rent land up in the mountains right outside the city. We are tired of the city and the people in it. And we want our own place away from people. Apartment living is getting really old for us.
2014 was a year of chaos and tough times. We had some good times for sure, like my kiddo getting 4 Christmases with friends and adopting our dog Honey. But there was a lot of hard times that have stressed us out and drained us a lot. We got a car so my next step is a home in the mountains this year. I'm ready to move and doing everything I can to make it happen as soon as possible. My daughter is so ready to move too. She turned 8 in 2014 and is such an amazing kid. I'm really thankful to have her in my life! We've had our dog Honey since the end of September. We've had some hard times with her, like with potty training, but she's been doing really good and she adores my daughter. She is a kid dog for sure and prefers them over adults. Over the past year I've discovered more of who I am and what I want in life. I still see the best in people and that has been an issue in why I've gotten burned by bad friends. I refused to settle for the wrong guy and spent the year having fun with my kiddo and working. I'm still doing childcare from home but I want to get a waitress job at a bar or club in the near future, just a couple nights a week, to help bring in more income for us.
Time will tell what happens with the things still going on in our lives. I'm trying to use a lot more wisdom with friends and I'm keeping a lot to myself. I'm working hard to meet the goals we have for this year and better our lives. We are definitely ready for positive change this year!
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