I'll keep it short. I want to have sex with my boyfriend, and he wants to do it too, but I'm afraid. I'm afraid it will hurt and I'm afraid he won't think I look good (Im not exactly in the best shape).
I'm young but I really want to do it, but I'm afraid.
Being a virgin I technically can't say anything, but what I do know is that make sure you're absolutely positively ready for it. That way the apprehension you feel won't be as great.
The first time is going to hurt, I won't lie. You just have to get over the afraid part and do it. You will always stress about the first time, you just have to do it when your ready.
Well it's been five years since i've lost my virginity and i honestly don't remember if it hurt, but i do remember the awkwardness afterwards, just make sure you're ready!
FIRST i'd say you have to seriously think about this.. because I don't know how old you are. And seeing as I have a sister who is 14 I wouldn't want her going off and having sex. JUST think it through.
If you love him and he loves you it shouldn't matter what you look like. end of discussion.
I'd say dont let people scare you with it hurts like hell but it might for some people. I don't remember it hurting but I imagine it couldn't have hurt that bad because I had sex again an hour later.
my first time hurt a little bit, but it eventually goes away.when you are more relaxed and stuff. i think you'll be fine. i'm not some super model either..you have nothing to worry about. be safe though!
It doesn't hurt all the time.
And even if by chance it does, it gets better.
Trust me, if he wants to, he thinks you look damn good.
lol.
And you shouldn't be worried about not knowing what your doing, it kind of comes naturally.
i mean honestly my first time hurt but it wasn't too bad and after that it was great... also dont worry about your body. you always see yourself different from how other people see it. and he's obviously attracted to you. the best thing is to be confident in yourself, and if you're not confident then fake being confident and eventually you'll actually start feeling confident.
if you think it's right, then dive in. and be safe of course. morning after pills are expensive.
The only reason all these people are telling you the first time hurts, is because it hurts when you're not ready. It hurts when you're scared, anxious, unprepared. When it's not the right time.
When everything's right, when you've made the firm decision that's its what you want to do, what you feel is right for yourself, it won't hurt at all. It could be the best experience of your life, and not something you have to grow accustomed to.
That's how it should be.
So if you're this afraid, you said you're young. Just wait. Because if you're too young, in a few years, most likely you'll regret it. Most girls do.
Good luck and whatever you decide to do, be safe.
~Caitlyn.
^ That's not completely true. Being anxious can make it hurt more... but it also has to do with penis size! My first partner didn't hurt at all. 2 years later and with my second partner it hurt SO badly. It just depends.
^ That's not really true.
My first time, the guy was really big. (Like I'm talking I've seen a bunch of penises in my life, and his was the biggest i've seen to date. )
Actually, whether it hurts or not can have a lot to do with whether your hymen has already broken or not. If you've used tampons, or done horseriding, there's a fair chance it will have done.
On the other hand, I'd done both those things (and had quite a history of rather enthusiastic masturbation, though admittedly not vaginal) and mine wasn't broken. It hurt, but it wasn't horrible or traumatic.
If you love him, and he loves you, it'll feel easy, and natural, and right. Wait until you're ready.
I dont know how young you are, but you sound mature. & only you can know when you're ready.
My first time didn't really hurt. & if your boyfriend wants to do it, he obviously can't think you're in too bad a shape.
If he's really into you you will be sexy to him
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my first time didnt hurt. everyone is different, different partners. but if your worried about how he thinks of you then you arent ready. you should already know he thinks your beautiful or that he loves the extra weight. if hes told you that he doesnt like how you look then he definately isnt the right person. think it through, dont do it because your curious(as i did). be safe!
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There's absolutely no reason to be afraid. 
i'll be blunt.
The first time is going to hurt, I won't lie. You just have to get over the afraid part and do it. You will always stress about the first time, you just have to do it when your ready.
i think you'll be fine. i'm not some super model either..you have nothing to worry about. be safe though!
sadly because you are young and really age doesnt matter but your first time generally just sucks. lol♥Audrey♥
It doesn't hurt all the time. 
Ci think you sound twelve and trust me, coming from a woman who lost her virginity at 13, no 12 year old is ready.
The only reason all these people are telling you the first time hurts, is because it hurts when you're not ready. It hurts when you're scared, anxious, unprepared. When it's not the right time.
^ That's not completely true. Being anxious can make it hurt more... but it also has to do with penis size! My first partner didn't hurt at all. 2 years later and with my second partner it hurt SO badly. It just depends.
^ That's not really true.
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