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Behind my back

01/05/2009

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I've been with my partner for almost 3 years. For the first year she kept in touch with an ex that I don't like. It's not because she's an ex... It's because she flirts...acts like she's better than me...and makes me second guess myself. I tried to be her friend. Tried to see what my partner saw in her as a friend. But I couldn't do it. I finally told my partner that I didn't want her talking to her ex anymore. So she stopped.

Now, over a year later, I found out that she got in touch with her ex again. She's been texting her behind my back. Nothing sexual or intimate really. Just texts. But I'm hurt because she hid it from me. Even saved her ex's number in her phone under a false name. I'm hurt. I love her and don't want to leave. I know she loves me. But I don't want to spend the rest of my life second guessing myself because of her ex. I want to trust her again. I want to just be happy.

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tell her how you feel. what she's doing is not right.

[Immortal ShadowsStar|0 likes] [|reply]

You should rise above and trust your partner, despite your partners contact with their ex. While I think that it would be better for you to learn to trust your partner give or take the ex, I also think you need to have a sit down and talk to your partner about why they would lie to you and keep contact with the ex in such a sly way. It isn't fair to you or your partner to have them sneak around like that.

[Lauren.Star|0 likes] [|reply]

What she's doing isnt right, but at the same time... It doesnt sound like she's doing anything wrong. You said so yourself. It sounds like she's just having a hard time letting go of her friend. If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure you would understand. Obviously she chose you over her to begin with, so if her friendship with this other person truly is innocent, what's the problem? Besides, if she's sneaking around about it, it looks more suspicious. If everything is out in the open, you'll know what's going on and will have less of a reason to worry!

[Poetic JusticeStar|0 likes] [|reply]

i agree with lauren.

[& skull.Star|0 likes] [|reply]

if she saved it under a false name.. shes hiding it. hiding it is wrong. talk to her about it.

[.Ban.Ignorance.Star|0 likes] [|reply]

so i just read the other peoples comments... and all i have to say is if your gut says something is up.. then something is up.

my boyfriend says talk to her

[.Ban.Ignorance.Star|0 likes] [|reply]

Your partner is obviously with you for a reason, and not her ex. If the two of them only talk, then it couldn't hurt. I've actually recently been through this with my girlfriend. She's still very good friends with two of her exes, and it made me very uncomfortable for a while. You just have to trust your partner, and trust yourself. If she's with you, she wants to be with you and not her ex.
Good luck =)
~Caitlyn.

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