Can't have your baby

Pretty much any female can produce offspring- I don't think he chose to marry you because he believed you were the only one who could do it. He may, however, have chosen you because he loves you and you are the only one he would consider doing it WITH. Adoption is always an option, but I don't think calling off the wedding for this reason is a good idea

^WHAT SHE SAID!

LN

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Lauren.

Sometimes they r wrong women who.said they cant.... Can have babies it happened to.two of my friends unexpectally and two if he loves u enough adoption is an option i wouldnt call off the wedding its the man of ur dreams

*~Amber~*

awe sweetie.. he's not marrying your uterus. He's marrying -you- the only reason having children with you is so important is because of the remarkable woman you must be and because he thinks you'd be a good mother. There's no reason adoption isn't an option and you should believe him when he says so. That being said, couples counseling shouldn't be out of the question.

Hidden Depths

i agree with amber.. drs r not always right..

fearless♥love

he is marrying you for you..not because he thought you could have children. that's just insane.

drs arent always right. My fiance was told he would never have children due to his seizure meds he has been on since 3 weeks old.

We have a beautiful healthy 6 year old together

+*_Zombeh_Brainz_*+

I agree with the first commenter. I hope everything goes well.

I agree with whoever said doctors aren't always right. You never know what will happen. And if you never do get pregnant, there are children out there in need, and you two could give a child out there a future they never imagined..a loving family, and a future full of potential..I know it would never been the same as having your own child, or giving your fiance his own children, but sometimes that's how it works. Around here, some preachers insist you have pre marriage counseling, maybe look into that, usually its just one session to discuss finances and what your goals are. If you can find anything like that, schedule a meeting and bring this up. Talk through it together, and with someone else before calling off the wedding and regretting it for the rest of your life..

Don't let it make you feel like any less of a woman. My daughter won't be able to have children, either, if she survives long enough to even be of that age. YOU are the woman he loves - and he loves you for the beautiful, strong woman you are - NOT for your uterus. Having a child isn't about being biologically linked, it's about the love you feel. It is a hurdle, but it's not the end of the world. I wish you the best, both in life and in a long, happy marriage to the man that you love. It will get better hon. I promise.

aw girl if he love you- you guys can over come it. Do you know why you cant have kids?! what did they say? I know many people that are told they can never have kids and end up having 4 or 5!

Would you want him to call off the wedding if you were able to have children but he found out he was infertile?

la rana

He loves YOU, so many people don't have that. Remind yourself of that when you start feeling down. You will have children one way or the other, doctors aren't always right and there is adoption and surrogacy and infertility treatments and foster parenting. Don't call off the wedding, you'll regret it all your life.

Like what everyone else said, not all Drs are right. Plus you have options to try too. He clearly loves you for you and that is all that counts.

.love.struck.

My mom was told that she could never conceive a baby.

Then I came along.

Don't give up.

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Love, Rebekah

My mother was told she would never be able to have children and she ended up having 2. I also was told I would never be able to have children and I've been blessed with 1. Doctors aren't always right and miracles do indeed happen!

There's value in what you feel though. Everyone's negating that---But you should maybe seek counselling or even similar stories from other women via an online forum or something. It's devastating thing and you're entitled to feel shook up. But you should find help to fix the guilt you feel.

HUGS!!!

If he loves you- which it seems he does- then you'll be happy regardless of children. Adoption is a great blessing as well. Good luck!

StrawberyGlobug

Ouch, *hugs* I'm sorry you're feeling so down about it. I know loads of women who were told they couldn't have babies who have at least one.

My mom had a hysterectomy at 17 when she and my dad were dating. When he said it didn't matter to him, it didn't. My sister and I are adopted, and I'm thankful every day of my life that my Mom and Dad adopted us. They were the family we were meant for.

Don't call off the wedding...otherwise you'd be telling him that you don't love him. It would be a different story if he was considering calling it off because of this but YOU ARE. You're beating yourself up needlessly, not that there's ever a need for one to beat themself up. Just.... LOVE .... as you've been doing.

Totally agree with the first comment. And it has happened MANY times before where a woman has been told they can't have kids and they end up getting pregnant and delivering a healthy baby. (I watch Discovery Health Channel a lot and also this happened with my cousin's wife. She was told she'd never be able to have kids after a horrible car accident and she now has 2 healthy boys )

Adoption isn't a bad thing at all, I was adopted and I turned out alright. Your child will be loved the same as one that you birthed, the only difference is that your child would be one that you birthed in your heart.

my mom had her uterus crushed in an accident and was told she could never have kids. obviously doctors are not always correct. if it would turn out that you can not have children, adoption is always an option. our fiance obviously is marrying you for you, not just for you to make babies. if he says it is not a big deal and that he loves you, do not call off the wedding for that reason. It will crush him more than knowing you may not be able to have children will.

*A Truckers Fiancee*

I think you shouldn't call the wedding off. He loves you for you not your uterus. Yes he may want children, both of your children, but there are plenty of alternatives to that. Adoptions, surrogates. Plus some women are told that they can't have children and they still do, you may get lucky in the long run.

My grandma was told she couldn't have anymore after her first and she had 3 more. I know plenty of people like that.

Good luck and don't give up. You are not less of a woman.

Mommy♥f2+1

im proof you can have kids i was told i couldn't and im about ready to pop our frist out. Anything is possible

Yes, adopt. My father was adopted when he was an infant. It gave him a whole new chance at life.

My fiance was almost aborted. As a result, he strongly advocates adoption - giving a child a chance to live.

There aren't enough words to describe how wonderful adoption can be - esp. for the adopted child.