Can't you just be happy for us?

Even if you really want a baby.. are you sure that he's ready? If you guys had to fight about it, that might be a sign that he needs a little more time.

imaginary ordinary

It's stupid that your family would try to put their two cents in on your reproduction rights. I mean you two are married for Christ's sake! It should be only you & your husband's business if you two decide to have a child. And why would you have to admit to them you don't use condoms anymore? My mom would be like that's a little too much TMI..haha

Just do your own thing. Who cares what other people think? It's your life, your relationship, your uterus. As long as the husband agrees, I don't see why people should be haters. My boyfriend and I got pregnant just 3 weeks after starting dating (accidentally - by REALLY missing too many doses in a row & condom breaking... lucky or what?) Fortunately he's been around for 10 years... so woo hoo!

Anyways, good luck to you.

I wouldn't explain anything to my family.

My sister AND my cousin both got pregnant while on the pill and taking it normally. The most anyone in my family would ask is "aren't you on the pill?" and just be like 'wow' when I told them yes.

I think birth control issues are the couples business - no one else's. ♥

You don't need to tell them that you aren't using condoms or taking birth control pills. You can still get pregnant while using those preventative methods. If they can't be happy for you, then maybe they don't deserve the truth?

xo heather

Your family should support you no matter what they think. If they don't, then who cares? It's not their business anyway.

But that's not what I wanted to comment about.

I know you weren't asking for opinions on the matter, but don't you think you should have kids when the BOTH of you are ready? It almost seems as if you pressured him into having children instead of waiting for him to come to the decision by himself.

Anonymous Source

You shouldn't even have to make excuses. "Yeah, we're pregnant... so what?"

Aubrey;

I can understand this, believe me. I'm quite frankly almost in the same boat.. kind of. But even if it is what you TRULY want to have a baby, are you sure you want to have a kid with a man who is terrified of the idea? That doesn't seem fair to you, to your husband, or to a kid born to you guys as a couple. Give him some more time to warm up to and actually look forward to the idea of being a father.♥ -

Lauren.

I'm not here to judge, but (from what you've said) it doesn't sound like he wants kids. At least not now. Why not wait until he's ready, too? Especially considering you'll expect him to take on his half of the responsibility when the time comes. It just doesn't seem very fair if he's already told you he's not ready.

After being together as long as you have on top of being married for over a year, I don't see why anyone would tell you that it's 'too soon'... In your relationship. The only reason I could see for them to tell you that would be if they know you personally and don't think that you (or maybe your husband) is emotionally/financially responsible enough to have a child.

Don't take that as an attack, I obviously don't know you personally. I'm just making a guess based on the fact that you two have been together for a long time and MARRIED for over a year, but you still feel like you would need to lie to your family/friends to explain a pregnancy. You're not a child, you're a married adult now. Why would you need to explain that to anyone, especially those closest to you?

Wow. Well, some of the other comments have said it.

Your husband doesnt want kids right now yet you're forcing him into it.

Can I ask, what in the flying fuck is wrong with people these days? Why is everything always about "OMGWTFBBQ I need a kid right now".

The Mama

lmao at OMGWTFBBQ!!

fearless♥love

Why not wait until your husband is READY!!!!! Obviously you've had multiple fights about it. He's just giving in to shut you up. And it's going to lead to marriage problems and divorce and if you do end up pregnant.... the child will grow up in a broken home.. or you two will stay together not truely be happy because of a child.

Endless Love

Getting pregnant now against your husband's will is just going to cause problems in the future. Tremendous. And then no one can be happy for you because you aren't happy and you're creating a dangerous situation.

And your family shouldn't say anything about you wanting to get pg because you are husband and wife and it's your decision.

Becoming Mrs. Bailey