I know this is completely irrational but I constantly get upset when my significant other's exes are brought up. In the beginning of our relationship, he would talk about them- and my curiosity did not tell him to stop. He would say how one was SUCH an awesome kisser and how he loved kissing her so much while then informing me that I was not such a good kisser. And also how he learned to unhook bras with one hand from this other one (because he thinks he is just so slick). And how he loved the way this other one smelt. (A smell that was natural- not by any perfume.. something I just cannot control). And how he still has gifts that he was going to give to another one in his room but never did.
WELL 6 months later he doesnt say these things anymore and we have what I would consider a good relationship. However.
Every time we kiss I think of how he loved kissing her.
And every he unhooks my bra I angrily think of how he learned to do it.
And every time I pick out perfume I realize none will ever live up.
And every time I see that damned gift in his room I want to throw it away.
I need to get over his past- but it is so hard when theres little reminders everywhere
Ewww... I had a similar problem with one of my exes. I hope it turns out better for you than it did for us, but he pretty much shouldn't have said all that stuff to begin with. It's completely disrespectful.
I don't think you're being irrational at all. Some things are meant to be kept in the past, and he had no right to tell you these things. Of COURSE you'd be feeling like you can't live up to these ex's when he so blatantly tells you these things like it's natural. It isn't natural to discuss ex's to this depth and it was entirely unfair to you!
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Man...I feel the same way. Constantly thinking of who was before me. Right?
