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What's your secret?
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Fake, or...?

09/02/2011

I'm one of those people that believes in equality. For EVERYONE- Man, woman, black, white... Everyone. I do not believe that some people are 'more equal' than others. And unlike other people I know who claim to believe the same things, I actually ACT on it. I really do treat everyone around me the same, and I am friends with dozens of different cultures, including the people that don't speak English very well that no one else will talk to.

But still, in my head, there's a part of me that doesn't care much for other races and people. I talk to them and am friends with them, but I still catch myself flinching when they are near me because I don't want them to touch me. I know that that's horrible, and believe me, I stop as SOON as I notice it- But that doesn't change the fact that as much as I try to "love everyone!", these thoughts and feelings are still a subconscious, natural reaction that I don't know if I will ever be able to change.

I would ask if that makes me 'fake', but I already know that it does. I guess my real question is: What do you do about a situation like this? Do I keep 'pretending' (although that's not really the correct word for it, as I really do think they're nice and friendly people, and I do enjoy their company to an extent) to be politically correct and help myself sleep at night, or do I just cut the sh*t and be like everyone else who claims to believe in equality, but changes their tune as soon as an opportunity to prove it comes up?

I hate fake people, but I think I hate discourtesy even more.

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I think that fighting your own underlying prejudices and acting upon your beliefs is the most important thing you can do. Everyone has their own little assumptions, born of experiences and propaganda. The way the battle is won is in each individual person, conquering your OWN prejudices.

[polywogStar|0 likes] [|reply]

I will be the first to admit that I don't treat everyone fairly. If you act like a dumb ass, I will treat you like you are a dumb ass. If you act intelligent and speak intelligently, I will react as such. If you act like a misbehaving 3 year old, I will treat you like a misbehaving 3 year old and not give you what you want. I treat everyone equally to how they behave. In other words, treat me the way you want me to treat you and it will be done.

[Ice Vampire|0 likes] [|reply]

Humans by nature are prejudiced. It's a basal instinct that protects us from things that we're not sure about. I think it's noble when one tries to overcome these - and most of us nowadays are trying to break the mould. As polywog said, what makes you discriminatory is whether you act on your prejudices.

[lithium layouts.Star|0 likes] [|reply]



How can you be friends with someone when you "flinch" and "don't want them to touch" you? If someone ever did that to me I'd punch them in the face.

So clearly you don't treat people around you the same. I guess you're just like the "other people" that "claim to believe the same things."

[Beautiful LiesStar|0 likes] [|reply]

I know just what you mean, and I think that Lithium Layouts and Polywog said it the best. It is the fact that you notice and try to change that helps.

[Hidden DepthsStar|0 likes] [|reply]

Hm. Well, that's a pretty big predicament. I mean it's up to you, really. I think that by fighting it you're better for it, honestly. You obviously know that it's not okay to treat anyone differently for being of a different race or culture, and i praise you for it. If it were me i'd fight it. Maybe even talk to a professional, figure out why it is you feel like that instinctively and take steps to overcome it. Regardless, i'm sure you'll get through it. Even if you decide to be like "nah this is just who i am" and be unabashedly ignorant and bigoted forever, it's still your choice. Good luck to you, whatever you choose.

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