Get Over It

that is just SO sad - i feel SO bad for your boyfriend - its kinda obvious he feels BAD that he wasnt there when he should have been - or he was extremely close to him when he was younger or perhaps both... it sounds like YOU need to be more supportive of him, if you really love him - the word is "just" passed give him some time to grief will you?

Some people don't really think about the strength of a family bond until a family member is gone. Don't be such an insensitive asshole.

Anonymous Source

Bah. People shouldn't be so quick to jump down your throat. I know how you feel. I see people do this sort of thing all the time. The dying person can be on their deathbed, barely clinging to life for DAYS (or more), and the other person KNOWS it, but still chooses to party and do stupid things instead of say goodbye. Then when the person dies, the other person acts so sad!! (Especially when it gets them out of going to work or something...) But not sad enough to have made them visit, I guess.

It would be more understandable if they spent the time at home, or with other family members (showing SOME sign that they cared), but getting high and partying? Sounds like a celebration to me.

I fully agree to this.
It was when my grandpa was passing away [then came back to good health] that I realized how selfish people can get.
It made me sick.

canceroustears

Agreed. It's very disappointing

Yeah I agree with you that is dumb. I know people like that and it drives me nuts. I had an ex use the death of an old friends little sister like a crutch for over a year. Anytime she had something to do that she didn't want to like going to school or even doing large projects for school, she would start crying about how her little sister died and how hard it was dealing with it, even though she hadn't seen the girl in years because she was lazy and stopped talking to those friends. Sadly I have learned that you get to really know people when they have someone near them die.

I kinda see what you mean... If a person doesn't give two shits about another person, but then feels bad when they die, and feels guilty for not having spent time or affection on said person then I really don't feel bad for them. They had their chance and made their choices... At the same time, I do feel bad, because the loss of anyone you know hurts, even if it's just someone you knew in passing, or were supposed to have cared more about.