Hiding the fleshlight

I think I'd be upset that they felt the need to buy a second one... but face it. Most guys need to jerk it out once or twice a day just to stay sane. They're gonna masturbate, it's a given. To think that a guy is just... never gonna masturbate again is just silly.

I mean, unless you two screw like bunnies a couple times a day.

Jessica

I agree with the first noter.
Thats why he hid them, bc he knew it upset you. Guys jerk off all the time, more than we care to know. would you want him to tell you each time he masturbates?
Sometimes I perfer masturbation to sex, its quicker, I can be lazy about it, I can be selfish, and then fall asleep, no questions asked. Now if youre not having sex at ALL ,then there's a problem.

CrystalsLost

Precisely!

Jessica

Whats the big deal? i know my husband dodesnt have that kind of thing, but he wouldnt have the need to hide it from me, but he watches porn, he jerks off, i ask about it and i talk to him about it and he tells me men jerk off, or watch things, or look at other women because its something different, and maybe thats the reason for him to have one...

i could see your issue because he never wants sex, then i think you should say something and ask him why he makes it seem that way... some guys are different my husband arent like those horn dogs that we hear about every day needs, i gotten over it because i came from having sex ALLLLLLLL the time, and he isnt like that he likes it 2 times a week sometimes more or less depending what goes on, and i am FINE with that, thats even better for us because we have other ways to connect with each other... and he didnt like that i was needy at the time and i am happy wtih our sex life and we have toys and i have my personal toys for those moments he isnt around.

i know for a fact he masterbates most mornings, and he comes home and have sex with me at times too its a release, its something they do like i said its something different... like different stuff... maybe suggest put more spice in the sex life? or something? id talk to him about it...

sorry i rambled lol good luck!

*~His Mrs.Right~*

however, not having sex... ever.. IS a problem... cuz there has been occastions that one masterbates or looksat porn than having sex...

id talk to him if that doesnt work suggest things...

*~His Mrs.Right~*

you could talk to him about it instead of hiding it on him. i know my boyfriend masturbates and women do it too. it's natural. i would feel a little insulted, but i think you should try and talk to him.

I don't know how I feel about the whole fleshlight thing but I guess it is the same as a vibrator for a woman. I just thinkg the hiding it thing is the real issue.

BeccaRelly

I would leave it out in the open. Lay it on top of the dresser or on the bed .. Don't say anything about it, let him bring it up. Make it obvious you found them. Then he knows, and he'll explain.

Agreed. If he won't have a conversation about it, sometimes you've got to force it out. Not in a bitchy way, obviously. If you're open and honest about it, you should receive the same back.

Emily the Strange

I think the issue the poster has is that her fiance masturbates (therefore showing he does have desire in him), but doesn't have sex often with her, suggesting that he prefers a fake pussy to hers, which is very hurting and insulting. I don't think masturbation is the issue, just that he's masturbating INSTEAD of having sex.