I shouldn't be...

Sigh. What the fuck at loser moms?

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Pretty much sums up how I feel about you as well.

Jessica

Sometimes we can't help how we feel, and as long as you dont feel like your little guy is a mistake, then just hang in there. Depression sucks. Try and get some help for it though, so you dont have to feel like that. As for other commenters on this and the other similar entry...sorry everyones not perfect, and sometimes if you need help/to talk, just getting it out there helps.

fears.on.fire

Hang in there, it may seem tough right now but things usually get better! Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel? I don't think people would be better off. Your husband and son would definitely miss you and every kid needs his mother. You're not a coward until you actually run away from the situation. Everyone has feelings where they question themselves and their lives sometimes.

And to the first commenter:
Why is she a loser?
Just because she feels something that you think she SHOULDN'T? Rude.

She didn't say she would run away. She was only wondering.

No she wasn't wondering. She WANTS to run away, she just hasn't (or maybe she has, who knows).

I have no respect for people who want to abandon their children or even THINK about doing such a thing.

Jessica

I don't agree with people abandoing their children but I think that it's unfair to judge people without knowing the whole story behind their circumstances.

I don't really care to know more about her situation. She didn't say her husband beats her or anything to imply that her situation is anything unfortunate.

She's a loser, plain and simple.

Jessica

Wow.

No one said it's wrong to think how ones life would be different if some choices weren't made or were made. And just because someone wonders how it would be or if it would be better to leave, doesn't mean that they are going to do it or that they are a horrible person. Calling her a loser is a bit harsh and uncalled for.

Nah not really.

People who have kids and then WANT to abandon them, are losers. Point blank.

Its not harsh or uncalled for in any way.

Jessica

I think it's funny that you blocked me...when I didn't do anything except state my opinion. I just think that until you actually are in her shoes, you shouldn't call her a loser. Yes, you have your opinions; everyone does, but why resort to name calling? That's just immature.

Hahaha. Trust me, I didn't block you because you don't agree with me. I blocked you awhile back because you kept viewing my diary over and over without saying anything. Shit's creepy.

I don't need to be in her shoes. I'm the child who had a mother who didn't want to be a parent and ran out on them. So I'll call that "mother" a loser if I want to. I've damn sure earned that right.

You shouldn't condescend me and tell me that I shouldn't call her a loser when you have no idea what makes me feel the way I do about a parent like that.

They're pathetic, selfish, LOSERS. I have no respect for them OR for people who are sympathetic to them.

Jessica

Well, I'm sorry if I viewed you over and over again...I wasn't trying to be creepy. I usually comment most diaries from my personal diary, not this one.

I get that people have things in life that happen to them and make them feel bitter or resentful towards similar situations, but you don't *KNOW* that she is going to leave her kid. Just because she wonders about how her life might be different or feels a bit overwhelmed doesn't make her a *LOSER*. She never said "I'm leaving my husband and my kid and getting out of here."

Anyway, I wasn't trying to condescend you. I think it's hypocritical of you saying I'm condescending YOU when you're doing that very same thing to her.

She said "I want to pack up and run away." She wants to leave her child. It isn't just 'oh life would be easier without a kid.' Because yeah, it would be easier for everyone not to have kids.

Whether she actually leaves or not is irrelevant. Wanting to leave, in my eyes, is just as bad as actually doing it. I don't *CARE* if she's going to leave or not. wanting to leave makes her a loser.

And lol wtf, I'm condescending HER? I'm not sitting here saying I'm better than her. no. I'm saying the chick is a damn loser, which she is.

The only condescending ones are the people who are telling me I shouldn't say things about her because I don't know the situation. What am I supposed to be understanding of this chick because she's "overwhelmed" and wants to abandon her child? Sorry but no.

Jessica

A change of attitude is the only course of action here. There is no "undo" button for motherhood.

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