My Boyfriend Issues

I don't find anything wrong with you dating someone who's 32 years older than you. But if you do want to start a life with kids, there are some sacrifices you're going to have to make, even if that sacrifice is your significant other. I totally understand why you're confused, yo, and it's good you can pinpoint and acknowledge these issues. There's really nothing you can do apart from ending it with this man and finding someone who can provide you with children.

Or you can go into adoption, sperm donors, etc. It just won't be HIS kid.

[Anonymous Source|0 likes] [|reply]

Aren't vasectomies reversable?

I know it's not like a 100% chance of correction, but it IS possible.



I know a chick that I work with like this. Only shes 29 and he's 58, haha. But I don't think she wants kids.

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But the dude's like 56 already. The shit is risky, and even if the vasectomy IS reversed, you know, he's 56. He may even be shooting blanks at this point.

[Anonymous Source|0 likes] [|reply]

Point well made.

But you never know, maybe dude's willing to risk it?

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They are reversible, but there are SOOO many health risks in doing so at this man's age, concerning the unborn child. Chromosomes start breaking down, and when they get passed on, can cause MAJOR deformities that can sometimes be life threatening. That's why they advise people not to get/try to get pregnant after 35 or so.

[Becoming Mrs. Bailey|0 likes] [|reply]

they r but idk if it matters how long since he's had it done..

[fearless♥love|0 likes] [|reply]

i agree!! good advice =)

[fearless♥love|0 likes] [|reply]

This is a tough situation. I have met several guys who were everything that you described and treated me well. But I was/am too young to settle. And their goals were not the same as my goals. So, I had to let those guys go on with their lives so that I could go on with my life. Ultimately, you have to decide if this guy is worth the sacrifices that you would be making to stay with him.

xo heather

wow big age difference i dunno if i can do that...


well if your this unsure, and you dont know about the future, or something you should talk to him on how you feel or re think your decsion and maybe he isnt the ONE?

or you can scarafice your young life to grow up this quickly but dont do anything your gonna regret

Yeah, this is tough. I don't see anything wrong with the age difference, but if you want other things, like what ASource says, you might have to make some sacrifices. Don't put a cap on your ultimate happiness and dreams for a man you're happy with for the moment.

[Becoming Mrs. Bailey|0 likes] [|reply]

Kids don't have to be by birth only... but you could always do artificial insemination or something.

I can understand being worried about his health, though, and you have to decide for yourself whether your relationship with this man is more important than the negatives associated with it.

Aubrey;

Age is just a number, and I don't see anything wrong with the number differences here. Love is an amazing thing, but you just need to analyze what it is you TRULY want out of life.. and sometimes, love just isn't enough. Even if you were to have a child with him NOW, he's 56. By the time the child is graduating high school, he would be 74 years old. What kind of life does that leave you? Speaking of his being 56 years old, I don't doubt at all that he loves you, but I also think he's a big enough of a man to be able to accept heartbreak and understand the reasons you'd want to move on.

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Lauren.

Talk to him. He's 56, I'm sure he'll understand what it means to be young and to want to do all these things. In fact, he probably already knew that you'd feel this way eventually and just wanted to enjoy your company while it lasted. At least this was my experience when I was in a similar situation. Either way, you'll have to talk to him eventually!

they wont do a reversal at his age i don''t think...

[*Amour De Bebe*|0 likes] [|reply]

Men produce sperm forever, but having a reversal can be tricky, and sometimes doesnt work at all. The younger you have it the better your chances are. I know many couples who have had a sucessful pregnancy after a reversal, but my question is, he already has health problems. Are they life threatning or quite serious that he may not be able to even physically handle the operation, or even worse yet, pass away much sooner which will leave you with a young child and a widow?

You also said yourself, you want to be young, party go out and have fun. Do that. Live your life, then settle down later.

[The Mama |0 likes] [|reply]

Good luck. It's a tough desicion hopefully someone can suggest something do able for you.. But if you can't find a solution I recommend telling him soon... instead of leading him on..

Endless Love

maybe you can look into adoption or sperm donors

I am kind of in the same boat with age differences. My bf is 20 years older than I am and we are kind of at a crossroads now because of it. We are just at different stages in our lives and just want different things. I totally feel you.