The other girl

Once upon a time, I could have written this.

you should actually tell him. if it's hard to actually talk to him, write him a letter

Immortal Shadows

That's ridiculous. It'd drive me crazy. You need to go straight up to him and say "Look, buddy. It's her or me. Pick. Now."

And be strong about it. Don't cave in.

lithium layouts.

this used to be me.. and when i finally gave him time to think about what he was doing.. he stopped talking to her. although that other girl was his ex girlfriend... maybe he did date her and doesnt want to admit it to make you more upset. most men will keep that a secret not to upset their current. i am not saying he is lying.. tell him how you feel and that would bother the hell outa me too.. dont let him push you around like that.

Ultimatums aren't really the best way to go. Who is anyone to tell another who they can and can't hang out/talk with? By going up to him and saying "you pick", you're more likely to just piss him off and sound like a jealous controlling bitch than someone who's hurt by the way she's being treated. You should sit him down, ask him to turn off his phone so you can talk, and nicely explain how you feel ignored when he spends so much time talking to her and that it hurts you when he's in a crappy mood with you because of her. Ask him at the end of it to put the other girl aside when you're together. Don't forbid him from talking to her, just ask him to do it less when it's you and him time so you don't feel like you're less important or as though it's a competition for who can get his attention most.

you should tell him how he's making you feel. but from personal experience, it's probably not a good idea to say who he can and cannot be friends with.

Lady Venom

i cant say much about the situation, because my old bf/ best friend is currently blowing me off for his new gf who's way older and with A LOT of baggage. so being the-ex, i dont have much advice. im sorry :[

StaRRyEyDSupRiz

don't make him CHOOSE! bad! its a no-no ... it'll make him feel threatened and guys like that don't like the feeling of losing control over something like that. give him "the warning". i had that happen to me with my ex fiance. except it was his guy friends and not another girl. he would cancell our dates to go shoot pool with them, even though he just went and hung out with them 2 days in a row. it was rough, but i told him that if things didn't start looking up, i was going to leave him. he didn't believe me ^_^ and now he's still kicking himself in the ass 8 months later now that im with someone else who treats me nicer ^_^

This was me not long ago. Honey, I'm really sorry to say but he's most likely cheating on you. Even if not physically, he's emotionally cheating.

Putting more effort into anyone aside from your significant other is wrong. Be firm and tell him you don't appreciate being put on the sidelines to his "friend". Say he should stop spending so much energy on her or else you walk. And follow through. You deserve SO MUCH better than this.

Good luck <3

Jaime