odviously, with a child on the way we are doing a ton of soul searching. We begin with the idea that we are going to be parents and then, of course, what the details of that means. Also, on this search I have been looking more and more into my relationship with my husband, family, and God. Why? Because these relationships are just so much more important to the new child about to take it's turn in my life.
My parents are the example I grew up with. No parent is perfect and this is not for bashing or saying they were so awesome. The fact is, I love my parents! I really trully do, and without them I probably would be freaking out beyond what I am. It's their love and support in my life that has helped me become who I am. Yes, I am a adult and make my own decisions, they do not control my every move but they are the people who helped guide me through my youth. What a amazing system that God designed for us.
My husband and I's relationship is even more important than that of my family ones. This is because in our relationship we teach our children the most important thing we ever could. Stability! Why is this so important? In a world filled with chaos, your child needs to know that there is something strong. I know that life is unpredictable and at any moment things could go array, but it's not that my life isn't crazy, it would be foolish to say it isn't, but that during these times and moments: my husband and I are together working to make decisions that are appropriate. I have seen how couples, in times of distress, lose focus and ultimately make rash unstable decisions. I know in my relationship with my husband that it is something that occurs. What the hope is that we can sensibly show our child that it is ok to take a breath and think. Not to fight against the rough spots but to go through them. We show our children the importance of pushing forward, and having relationships and the example of what good and bad ones are.
The last and biggest MOST IMPORTANT relationship of all is my relationship with God. *sigh* I come to this with a very weak understanding of what I should say. God has more to do with life and love than one could really trully explain. The reality is God teaches us about truth. God teaches us that we are weak and at any moment will fall apart, but that there is hope because he is Perfect and he has saved us. What more can be said? We grow up and see this world and the sin that has encompassed it and us. What do we tell our kids? This is it, nothing after this and truth doesn't exist and well the world just plainly sucks. Then you wonder why the world has more and more people who strive for nothing and do wrong. Sure we still have basic principles but truth.... well ask most people and they will say it is dependant on the persons point of view. That makes right and wrong, ethical and morality change and it changes our basic principles. That is why God is so important. He is righteous and never changing, never failing, and always loving.
I want all these things more in my life and that they are a part of our childs life. As I continue on my road to Santification, my soul searches for more and more. I pray my child's soul searches and yearns much like mine. |
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