Thats what Im talking about..I want to talk about it..nothing for serious or anything just talk..to see what his views and everything is like. But he just says Oh were not in that position to talk about that sort of thing. Which hurts my feeling cause then I think that either it wont happen or he just doesnt care enough about me to talk to me about that sort of thing.

some people are just like that. i'm sure he doesn't think less of you, or care about you any less. he probably just hasn't gotten to a place where discussing that stuff, even in hypotheticals, is ok for him. maybe it never will be, people are like that too. if he's not comfortable though i wouldn't push the matter, it might put him off a bit. let him bring it up when he's comfortable.

My boyfriend and I sarted to talk about marriage and babies about a year and a half after we started to date. I got pregnant shortly before we were together for two years and we still talk about marriage and we've been together for almost three years. We're both serious when we talk about marriage and he says he knows how he is going to ask me already. I just don't know when it will be so we shall see.

My fiance and I have been together for 3 1/2 years but didn't really talk about getting married until about a year ago when we found out we were expecting our 2nd child. Now we are getting married June of 2010!

I have no room to talk :) My husband amd I found out 2 months after we started dating we were expecting our first child. Things just kinda fell into place after that.

My husband brought up marriage really early in our relationship, after we had been dating for maybe three months. He told EVERYONE he was going to marry me, his friends, boss, etc. However, we didn't get married until around the two year mark. Normally, I think a year would be a good enough time to discuss where a relationship stands, so both parties have an idea of where it is expected to lead. However, I can see how he feels that marriage might not be something to talk about right now. Maybe he figures that the first step is figuring out how to get on your own feet, and out of your parents' houses, then start building lives together..?

yeah I told him once thats all done then we really need to sit down and have a talk about where this is going..but i want to talk about it now..haha i just cant wait.

My fella and I had been together for 4 years before I got pregnant. I fell july/august 2007, Oscar was born April 08. We have talked about marrige but we have both agreed, if we reach 10 years together then it's something we would do as we both think that far too many people get married way too quick these days. Besides, IMO, a child is for life, a marraige you can end with a divorce so I believe having a child is a much bigger commitment that getting married.

I agree with you.. I'm due at the end of october and I'd would rather have a child with him and start a family then get married. I believe you dont have to be married to KNOW you want to be together/have a family together.

I beg to differ. A child does not keep people any more committed than marriage these days.
The commitment is more to the child than it is to each other.

My fiancee and I had been together for about a year and a half when he proposed. But we had talked about it seriously after about 6 months of dating. But we'd also known each other for about 2 years and been friends and dated each other before...It just depends, some guys don't like talking about it. My brother and his gf have been together for 3 years this october and he won't talk about it with her...

My boyfriend & I only mentioned marriage when we found out I was pregnant back in March. We'd been together a little over a year. My grandmother had brought it up and pressured us about it but, we decided that it was not the time for us. I refuse to get married ONLY because I am pregnant. We are living together, & happy .. so that's really all that matters to me. I know he's not going anywhere. I'd maybe mention it only more time and if he doesnt want to talk about it then.. let it go and let HIM bring it up next time, when he's ready.

got engaged after 8 months, living together from then also. TTC from 12 months, married and baby at 3 years. we´ve been together 5 years this november.

we started talking about it practically the day we met! LOL. so i'm no help really. i think he should be open to the idea of talking about it at least, so you know what you're aiming for!
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My husband and I were engaged after four weeks, but waited to get married until after we had lived together. We've been together three and a half years, and have been married two. For me, I just knew. Everyone is different, and I have to agree that if he's not talking about it, he's just not ready. Give him some time :)

My fiance and I got engaged 3 months shy of being together for 4 years and in total will have been engaged for 2 years when we get married next August (6 years together before marriage). We have talked about children and have chosen our baby names already but no immediate plans for that... Hopefully after the wedding.

I guess marriage wouldnt be such an issue for me if we only talked about future plans. My sons father and I were living together and we never mentioned marriage or anything and I was perfectly fine with that..I felt like we were married and I knew he wasnt going anywhere..With my BF now he doesnt talk about it living together or anything. I know if we were living together marriage wouldnt be brought up.

Unlike most of everyone else, I'm going to say what I think of the situation. I'd be awfully shady if he can't even say, "yeah... I see something long-term with you". Yes, you're both in crappy situations, but if a guy isn't a commitment phobe, he'll say he wants to keep you around. If you're pushing it, constantly bringing up wedding dresses or engagement rings, yeah... I'm sure he's feeling too much pressure. I think you need to just say, "Listen, I know it's very scary to think about marriage and living together, but I really don't want to spend my time with someone who can't see a future with me". Then drop it. He'll either get the hint or you'll realize he isn't too serious. Either way, YOU need to decide if you're okay with this wishy-washy situation of him avoiding the issue. My fiance, who never lets his feelings get overly mushy, told me that when we were first together, he would imagine what it was like to come home to me and be with me. Even after we broke up he kept thinking about how he let me go. So yeah... most guys either know it or they don't. Like I said, I don't know the situation fully but those are my two cents.

i've been dating my boyfriend for ten months. we haven't talked about marriage or moving in together. we're taking things very slowly, but we're both certain we'll be together for a long time.

we talked about marriage relatively early- but that was when my then BF of 3 months told me he never wanted to get married again, after he had been to his best friend's wedding.
I cried for an hour- it was too early for us to consider it, but I wanted the option.
It certainly sparked a lot of discussions over the years, and we finally got engaged after 6 years together, and married 2 months after that.
We have now been together for 7 years and have a happy, stable relationship.
(and the proposal was a beautiful one, in moonlight, by the sea- with a ring he had made for me. bliss)

i guess, different people move at different paces. he may well just be being practical.. and if you are worried about how he is feeling, you guys need to talk to each other about it.
And then you need to decide if you are ok with the way things are.
No one else can decide that for you.

My husband and I started dating Sept 2007, a month after dating we moved in together then we got engaged January 2008. 17 Months after being engaged we were married (May 9th, 2009). We started talking about marriage early on in the relationship, but never really thought much about it until we got engaged.

Babies, we started trying for a baby in December 2008, after 11 months of trying my husband got laid off so we decided to stop trying as we were getting married in 6 months and I didn't want to be huge for our wedding. On May 4th, 2009, just 5 days before we were to get married, we found out we were pregnant and expecting. Now I'm due with my first child, and he should be here around Christmas time.

Like someone said, everyone is different and every relationship is different so it really depends on you 2

Me and my BF have been together over 5 years now and I guess we've always talked about. I can't remember it ever being a taboo subject.
We'll frequently talk now about when we're married, our wedding day, when we'll live together, family things we'll do when we have babies etc.
Who knows when he'll propose though, although it's in our future I'm not too fussed about getting married (even though we've already found the spot where we'll be getting married).
His grandma calls me his fiancee anyway, has done since the 3rd time I met her, when he said "but we're not engaged" she just replied "but you will be, eventually, and therefore she is".

Maybe just say that you're not looking for a ring or a baby, or even any promises that you'll be together forever, you just want him to say whether he sees himself having a future with you. Just a yes or a no answer.

I've been with the girlfriend three years. And there is NO WAY IN HELL we are getting married any time soon. Why the rush? If she's the one I'm meant to be with then she'll still be the one I'm meant to be with in ten years time... when we have money and maturity and all them other things that help make a marriage work! ;D

I've been with the girlfriend three years. And there is NO WAY IN HELL we are getting married any time soon. Why the rush? If she's the one I'm meant to be with then she'll still be the one I'm meant to be with in ten years time... when we have money and maturity and all them other things that help make a marriage work! ;D

you guys living together?

Yep. But it's more a "money" thing. I can't afford to live on my own, and we can't afford to move out of her mom's right now. Despite having a combined salary of about $70,000 a year. Welcome to South East England. Sucks!