I wish it was that easy. Unfortunately, he doesn't really have anyone that he could talk to about what is going on. Yes, I agree that he is making it out to be less of an issue than it really is, though I believe that part of that could be my fault because at this point I do not want to discuss it with him anymore. I already feel defeated enough as it is & to continue on with trying to get him to listen to me, or to consider my feelings is just making me feel that much worse. I hate putting it like that because it sounds like I am saying that I am giving up, but I am not. I think I just need to chill out & give it a rest for a few days. Hopefully it will help me to find some security within & for myself & maybe afterward I will have a better idea about what to do. I'm still open to any suggestions that all of you may have. :)

My husband does the same thing.
It got to the point it was everynight, he was lieing about it, and not having sex with me for weeks at a time.
I was fed up over crying, wishing he'd come to bed, for him to only come to bed around 3am..
After I caught him masterbating to it..
I put a password on the computer, and when my dear ol' husband tried to fake me and lie.. he realized there was a password and he was screwed.
Sounds immature for me to do it - but it worked. I was tired of him looking at that crap, and expecially when I saw what kinda of crap it was (since he's stupid with the computer, he doesn't know to clear history.)
Now he know's I don't trust him at all to get online. And I told him.. "Look here! Password is on, this computer is for me, I bought it with my money, you have your xbox 360.. stay off mine, and i'll stay off yours!"
Needless to say he hasn't been online in almost 2 months. If he don't like it.. Well then he can just leave. LOL (might be my pregnacy hormones saying he could leave, I wouldn't want him too.)
Well somedays I do. LOL

LOL. I guess it's nice to know that I am not completely alone, though knowing how bad the whole situation is making me feel, I hate that anyone else would ever have to go through it too. I'm trying to just deal with it, it is difficult. I mean, I feel so rejected & I wish he would see that. I wish he would stop thinking about himself so much & actually take the time to think about how his actions & lack of affection affects me. I don't mind that he does what he does (getting off solo is just part of life, right), I just don't feel comfortable or secure in our relationship knowing that his intentions are not to help our relationship.

As far as putting a password on the computer goes: my husband is a computer whiz, to the max! If I tried to pull something like that, it would backfire so fast & he would most likely shut me out even more (& he would probably put a password on my computer or something silly to either get back at me, or to just mess with my head). Thank you for responding to my thread. :)

I have a question for you: did you and your husband ever actually address the issue of his porn obsession, or did it just sorta fade away over time? Also, when he was into looking at the porn, did he try to hide it from you or did he admit to it?

True:
Yeah we've addresses it our whole relationship, he swore he wouldn't look anymore, and it went a while without him looking. But he always went back. And It's like I have this sick sense when he does it. I've always been able to sense it.. Just like with Ex boyfriends - I knew everytime they cheated, and even before they did the deed, I knew when they left that's what they was doing. So I always trust my gut.
He actually would hide it, until I would tell him I knew, then he'd confess. But a couple time's i've caught him.. he'll look me dead in the eye and swear he didn't..

BUMP. Due to recent events I am requesting that this thread be deleted, as it has apparently * BUT UNINTENTIONALLY* offended certain individuals & they are requesting that this thread be removed if at all possible. Thank you. -True

Gosh, yo - some individuals are offended by most of the stuff on Bloop. My own innocent diary is a constant source of offence! So long as you haven't broken the law, I wouldn't worry. If people choose to stay here, they must accept that there are all sorts of people here.

BUMP BUMP (SORRY BLOOPIANS)..A certain individual feels deeply hurt & deeply misunderstood by what I have posted here. Regardless of my reasons for posting this thread, I regret to add that they have infact been offended and I am deeply and truly sorry for that. I never meant to offend anybody. I feel terrible. Absolutely terrible, I would never do anything to hurt this person intentionally. I was only trying to solve my own problems without it affecting anyone else negatively. If I would have known that my thread was going to end up hurting anyone, I wouldn't have posted it. I ask that this thread be deleted by a mod ASAP, if that is a valid request. Thanks again -True