mine was also because the condom broke. and i was waiting until i could start the pill for the first time.
but i'm surprised at how many people took it too.

I find it more disturbing there are people who seem to think it's solely the man's responsibility to make sure he wears a condom. This whole "I'd kill my boyfriend if he let that happen" thing or "My girlfriend would kill me if I let that happen" thing is ridiculous. It's not JUST his responsibility. Oh sure, people "lose their heads" and in the heat of the moment "forget" the protection. But you can't sit there and blame him for being so carried away in the moment to not put the glove on if YOU were in the same frame of mind. It's just as much HER fault he didn't wear a condom as it is HIS fault.

"HE didn't put on a condom, so it's HIS fault I have to take the Plan B" just doesn't fly. With irresponsible attitudes like that, it's NO WONDER Plan B is over used by so many.

I was thinking the same thing! You'd kill your boyfriend? Seriously? Because you DIDN'T know that there wasn't a condom used? Riiiight.

yeah i was reading those remarks like "uh, what?" i carry condoms all the time. i won't have sex without them. i follow the "rather have the gun and not need it, than need the gun and not have it" thing lol.

That's why you have sex with people you know so you dont get STDs. Accidents happen. I've been having sex for a while now and a few times is nothing lol.

Shouldn't that be, That's why you have sex with people who have been tested for all STD's before you have sex with them.

Just because you "know" someone doesnt mean they dont have a STD. Iv know friends who had sex with people who've theyve known for 10+ years and gotten one..Most people cant be trusted..and if you think you can trust them doesnt mean they are going to tell the truth

What?!? Are you really that stupid? You can get an STD from someone you know! Most people don't even know they have it. Have you been tested yourself for STDs? If you've had unprotected sex and haven't been, then you could have any number of STDs you don't know about, and be passing them on to others. That's very irresponsible.

and just because accidents happen does not mean that it's from unprotected sex.

No, of course not. Condoms can break. However you said yourself "stupid me for not using protection" which implies that wasn't the case with you. And yes, it is stupid.

have you considered birth control then?

I cant imagine taking it a couple time..let alone paying for it a couple times..when the lady told me how much it was going to be my freaking mouth dropped..I dont know if it all the same price but for me it was over 50 bucks..I wish I had 50 bucks to drop just because of careless sex..LOL

I think that peoples sex lives are their own business and not the whole world. If someone wants to have unprotected sex then that is their choice... is it not? Everyone has their own opinions, but what it comes down to is that Plan B was made for a reason and it's a good backup plan for when accidents do happen. Am i sitting here saying that i take Plan B everyday/once a week/once a month... no, i'm not. I don't consider it being careless sex though either.

Except that having unprotected sex doesn't just affect you, it affects others too... it passes on diseases that can cause infertility and even death... it leads to unwanted children. It has consequences and you seem rather ignorant to. Plan B is only 92% effective if taken early on. It was intended as exactly that, a BACK UP plan, for people who are having sex responsibly, using contraception and have the rare occassion where an accident happens. It wasn't intended to be taken repeatedly because someone isn't mature enough to ensure they use contraception.

And you've already admitted you took it because you were stupid with contraception. So if that isn't the definition of careless sex I don't know what is.

LMAO okay, lets get this straight.. when you sleep around and have unprotected sex your chances of getting a STD are greater. When you've been with the same person for years and you've both been tested and you have unprotected sex with them, how is that being irresponsible?

I think perhaps the issue is coming in with you not being clear on what you're saying. When you said "That's why you have sex with people you know so you dont get STDs", you didn't specify monogamous. Someone you know could be multiple people you already know.They don't have to be complete strangers for it to be sleeping around. If you've been in a monogamous relationship with the same person for a lengthy period of time, not using a condom is entirely different. But you didn't specify that.

Unprotected sex is always irresponsible unless you're happy enough with the possibility of becoming pregnant.

And you didn't mention having sex with someone who has been tested for STDs. You said it was safe if it was someone you know. That is not the same thing. i'm pretty sure not everyone who I know has been tested for STDs.

My uncle was with his wife for 13 years, she cheated and now he is dying of AIDS. My husband and I get tested every 6 months regardless of if we have had sex with others or not.

I guess i need to sit here and discuss my sex life with you? Condoms break. I've used condoms that have broke. Therefore i've gotten Plan B. With my current boyfriend who i've been with for years we rarely use protection and have had 1 accident where i've gotten the Plan B.

Careless sex is when you go around sleeping with people you don't even know without being tested and have no feelings towards the person.

I really dont find it being careless sex when i have sex with my boyfriend.

You don't need to. You chose to get involved in the discussion. If you didn't want to discuss it then perhaps you shouldn't have posted in the thread?

You said you'd been stupid with contraception yourself. And you said you've taken plan B a few times. You volunteered that information, no-one forced you.

And careless sex is ANY sex where there are consequences (STDs, pregnancy) that you do not want. Of course having sex with your boyfriend isn't careless. Not using contraception with your boyfriend (unless you do want to get pregnant) IS careless.

If you and your boyfriend rarely use protection, how have you only had one accident where you've needed plan B? I don't understand how not using protection is considered a safe way to ensure you don't get pregnant.

i never said it was a safe way to ensure you don't get pregnant. all i said is we rarely use protection and have only had 1 accident.

Like i said i don't think its the worlds business to know what goes on in everyones sex life. People are allowed to make their own choices and if one of their choices is to not use protection, who are you to say thats wrong? People who are having sex should be old enough to decide whether they want to use protection or not. Also, i think rather than having an abortion everytime there was an accident Plan B would be the better choice... correct?

I don't think anyone has suggested that an abortion is better than plan B. :P Of course it isn't. I also don't think anyone has suggested plan B is a bad thing to take when you need it. However, as it is only 92% effective at best... it is not always a fall back plan, and that unprotected sex could still end in an abortion which could have been prevented if the man and woman had been responsible to start with.

Of course it's the person's own choice... but choice or not, it is still irresponsible to have unprotected sex, particularly as unless you've been tested for STDs (and not slept with anyone else since the test) you're putting others at risk as well as yourself.

And if you don't want people to know about your sex life, don't talk about it on a public forum thread!

If it's not the world's business then you'd do best to not go telling the world about your sexual stupidity. You've made it everyone's business by announcing it.

You should have more respect for yourself and just make your guy friends wrap it up. You'll only get what you deserve otherwise.