I completely understand, & it was not my intention to come off rude or like I was attacking her. I stated that question to her because I've in the past have had very nice & informing conversations with her. I'm just the type of person that tries to look at all sides of any conversation & get as many opinions as I can, while trying to politely share mine as well. I've never been in a forum where ~RedFraggle~ was ever rude or bitchy or drama, which again, is why I posted my question to her because I knew I'd be more likely to get a straight forward drama free response.

The forums have been good lately (from what I've seen) - hopefully no-one felt too attacked or upset in regards to this thread. Medical threads, amongst others, are always going to have a little bit of drama attached - medical threads specifically - because of the safety risks attached to online advice. At least this one didn't get too out of hand(??)

ღExpecting#4 - I'm glad to hear you got it all checked out and have the all clear.

I agree, if she'd said she was going to the doctor already it wouldn't have been quite so bad. But instead she asked people to "diagnose" her and then said she'd been hoping people would be able to tell her if she needs to go to the ER or not.

I don't feel under attack though. I'm not that sensitive.

It isn't any different. I don't think people should be giving out medical advice on mommy forums either. In fact the worst incorrect medical information I've seem getting given out tends to be on mommy sites or Facebook groups... Completely incorrect stuff about vaccinations, home birth, epidurals. Sometimes this advice has led to harm.

And you may be sensible enough not to follow such advice, but millions of women are not that sensible!

That's a good point. I sometimes forget that just because I know not to take the advice or opinions of others as the final say, it doesn't mean that everyone else is going to know that. And every time I give a suggestion or advice I always start it or end it with "You're better off talking to a doctor or professional about it to have a more informed and correctly given opinion"

I DID go to the doctor. I wasnt being RUDE to anyone besides the ppl who were making a BIG DEAL outta nothing. I was asking for advice...not to be treated over the internet...lol.

Granted you wanted a "second" opinion as it were.. (I'm not criticizing.. or anything or being rude so please don't take it that way).. I understand you wanted to get others opinions on your symptoms and see what they might say..

I read this thread from start to finish.. and I will say I do agree with everyone.. I do understand that you've been to the doctor already and hey whatever they say it is.. more likely is right.. however if you feel that you need that "second" opinion and of course want advice or something to that nature.. the internet (especially) a blog site, thread, or anything on the internet is a little silly..

and from reading some of these comments from you ♥Expecting#4 I think in my personal opinion you were a little rude.. you may not seem like it but that's in my opinion..

My "opinion" about your thread.. like i said if you really want advice maybe seeing a different doctor or asking your primary doctor for a referral to someone else.. would be best..

If I remember correctly - wasn't there a "mommy" group diary on here? if it's still active you could always join if you haven't already and post an entry that way you won't get so many people "giving" you advice that you wouldn't want to hear/read or have them make such a "big deal" as it were

*apologies.. i meant ღExpecting#4

Sorry @Expecting#4 for the unhelpful things that people have said. When I first read your threat, I thought it sounded maybe like diabetes but then you can't be 100% sure unless you went to a doctor. I don't think anyone needs to be rude to you about it though - sometimes you aren't really asking for "treatment" or a diagnosis, but just helpful suggestions about what it COULD be. Of course, going to a doctor is the best but if you can't get to one at the time, it doesn't really hurt to get some info in case other people have had it, too.

This is why I normally don't come in the forums and have my diary on FO (except for NoJoMo) because people on Bloop are so rude and insensitive lately. Don't diss her for posting this thread here. It's a "free forum". People can post whatever the hell they want and if you're just going to say something STUPID or mean about her posting it, why can't you take a lesson from Bambi and "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all". Sheesh.

OBVIOUSLY, she wouldn't just take anyone's advice over the internet....for instance if someone randomly told her to take some random
medicines that she knew nothing about. She just wanted some help or reassurance, maybe!!

Thanks! =)

People DO take advice from strangers over the internet, and people have died for doing so. We're not telling her to see a doctor instead of asking advice here to be cruel or nasty, we're saying it because asking for non-medically trained strangers to diagnose you is dangerous! Just as it is dangerous to give a stranger medical advice (especially if you are not qualified to do so). We're talking about people potentially putting themselves or others at risk of harm. I wouldn't waste my time commenting just for the sake of being bitchy. I do it because I appreciate the risks that it poses.

*first read your THREAD, not threat LOL

I really do thank the people who were trying to help and I have heard of people taking advice from online and ending up very sick and or dieing. Although I should have told everyone from the beginning that I wasnt one of those people. When I posted it I was trying to decide to make a trip to the E.R or just wait and see my doctor...which is why I asked for help...NOT because I wasnt going to go see a doctor.
Sorry for coming off rude to anyone...Im not for drama..and yet this has seemed to have caused some type of it.
=(

But that decision in itself could be dangerous. What if you'd needed to go to the ER and people here told you it probably wasn't serious and to wait to see your own doctor? One of the examples I'm thinking of is someone who died from meningitis because they were told what they had was probably just flu. If you are worried you should see a doctor and if you're really worried go to the ER (or at least phone them). You shouldn't rely on non medically trained strangers on the internet to reassure you that that isn't necessary (and anyway you specifically asked people to diagnose you) because they do not know that.

im just glad all the drama is over. I did go to the E.R that night and they treated me for my symptoms and sent me home...I still havent made it to my OBGYN to get fulled checked out so I am still having these crazy issues everyday! its horrible!

I do thank everyone for everything HELPFUL that they posted! Hopefully my insurance will kick in soon so I can go to my OBGYN! =)

Ive never felt like this before and I got nervous...so I wanted a little advice... =)

Golly gosh, this thread has totally grown in drama and hugeness! FWIW, there are quite a lot of sites where it's actually against the rules to ask for and give medical advice, because of the very reasons Red Frag has mentioned! Like, no one is being mean here - there are just a lot of dangers inherent in doing so. Most sites I'm on, there would totally be a mod in here straight away stating firmly that no one can give medical advice.

Having said that, I don't see anything wrong with lightheartedly posting minor things, like a bruise or a wart or a swollen finger or a hangover or something, and asking if anyone has had similar - like, in the privacy of one's own diary, and with the understanding and maturity to know that no one can really diagnose you! But gosh, things like dizziness and migraines and blurred vision can actually be potentially really serious - they are the symptoms of all kinds of serious conditions (from a stroke to a brain tumour!) as well as non-serious ones! On most sites, this thread would totally have been stopped sharpish by a mod! Simply for the health and safety of all concerned.