Just for fun. What in your opinion makes a guy/girl GOOD in bed ?

... And what makes them bad? ;)

Ok, I'm not normally one to reply to these types of threads but honestly, there is only one key to being bad/good in bed....

Communication. When I've had a bad partner it is because they were too selfish to really listen to my needs or my wants in order to please me. Most girls need to be "warmed up," IE: touching, kissing, making out. You can't just go up and stick it in!

Same with guys, there is normally something that will get them aroused and get them interested.

So, when a guy is bad in bed, he's not listening...

(And no, I do not believe that the size of a penis matters. :-O I know! But it's again how they use it, and figuring out different ways, positions that will get both partners pleased...)

;-D

That's funny you say that. I was watching But I'm a Cheerleader last night, and one of the guys asked this lady if he should use some kind of foreplay. She said "No! Foreplay is for sissies! Real men just stick it in, unload and get out!" I about died laughing. ;D

passion, love, knowing what you're doing. no love? just add alcohol. haha alright i just haaad to put it out there.

Someone who doesn't know what they're doing and just shoves their cock in and out repetitively for half an hour.

My GAHD that was a bad experience.

Honestly what makes them good or bad is their ability to adapt to what you like or dislike.
If they are constantly doing something you dislike or something that you don't find works for you, then you're going to have problems -- whether it's right away or down the line.
It's really hard to be consistently intimate with someone who does not pay attention to signs.. and sometimes little signs don't work. Sometimes I've come right out and said 'I DO NOT LIKE THAT. STOP DOING IT.' only for them to do it again at a later date.. "Oh, I thought you might like it now" ahh! lol

Also, a huuuuge turn off for me is a guy who talks too much during sex. Right. Mostly it's girls you hear about that do that, but sometimes it's guys too =X

MEGAN u made me laugh!! but its true.. guys now a days just stick it in and get off.. they don't care about girls' needs!! my husband use to be like that and we've talked about him being selfish and now things have changed and hopefully they'll only get better!!

They can only get better! Not that I'm the best thing in bed, but I've learned that if you just focus on yourself and your orgasm the sex in your life will be absolutely horrible. Good communication is the key to good sex.

Everyone say it...chant it...

ha ha. ;-D

i like the rough kind at times and slow too. but got to have the hes good at what he does. no guys has ever got me off before like he does and always love had alot to do with that. i think emotion is big paret wwhen it comes to sex .

I think good sex can turn into bad sex after a while if you don't experiment & change it up. The same old crap can get old. So when you are in a long term relationship like I have been (4+years) you have to learn to try new things!

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE... Having my neck choked and hair pulled! I usually start him off with a nice back rub after he gets here, usually comes straight from work. I'm more of the giver but I don't mind it, it's in my nature to give.

I agree with the above poster. Girls need foreplay. My skin is my biggest erogenous zone... so being touched all over, or "warmed up", is necessary.. unless I'm really drunk.. then foreplay goes out the window!

Guys also need to realise that not all women (not many women actually) orgasm through sex alone, so getting your girl off before hand would be the gentlemanly thing to do!

I totally agree with this! It is a proven fact that woman are the harder sex to get off. I love getting off before sex, because than it makes me more sensitive to try and get off during sex....

My husband and I have been together for 11 years. There have been times when the sex wasn't all that great and seemed like a chore. Lately its been better. He's very considerate of my needs and wants me to get off atleast once before he gets off. Normally once isn't enough for him. I'm nto trying to brag or nothing but he can usually get me off 2 to 3 times each time we do it. I agree though and have said it so many times that a girl is like an oven. You have to warm us up before putting in your meat if you want us to enjoy it (most of us).

i'm blushing so much b.c i've never heard meg talk like this.

rocio: yeah uuu had to put it out there!!

i was watching THAT 70'S SHOW..
kitty: foreplay is very important!!
red: no.. nooo its not!
kitty: yes. it. is!!!

Aw! I guess it doesn't help that my mother is a sex therapist on top of her owning a real estate company! ;) I grew up in a home where sex was talked about frequently with your mom or dad (male to dad, girls to mom) and so it became natural. In fact, I think because it's not hidden we are more comfortable to wait for the right person.

And I am terrible and completely believe size matters. In my experience, those with bigger cocks have been better at it, even though they weren't the most attractive of people! You need to be able to FEEL it!

And ALSO (GOD DAMMIT I WANT THAT EDIT BUTTON!!!!) I used to believe love was a big component of sex, but my best sex was a one night stand. It did help that the guy was UBER hot too haha. So I think it has a LOT to do with confidence. I have bucket loads of confidence and since I learnt to accept my body and the things it does during sex, I have enjoyed it more!

Good - When nobody presses charges.

I myself try to use everything i have to get a girl off, and try to make her cum at least once from each; tongue, mouth, and fingers.

But it's not as easy as just using them, you have to know when to rotate to the next one, and even then there are numerous techniques that you'll have to rotate in and out to keep her interested. if you keep doing the same thing for 20 minutes (that is, if you haven't been kicked out of the bed already) she'll probably just be bored.

But, this is juxt my opinion from my experience. Typed 100% on my Wii. lulz.

I see the first problem... BED. Get freaky! Ditch the "bed" equation. Find exotic places and creative ways to get jiggy! lol

Life is too short to not shag in unmentionable ways. heh

Creative places don't always do it. Good sex= true emotions, listening to your partner before, during, and after so you know what they like. Bad sex= selfishness, funny faces, and no emotion

Love is a huge factor for me. If there's no emotion beyond "hey you're a cool friend" ain't nothin happening on my end. Plus I can't take sex seriously if the guy on top is makin a weird ass face... I'm sorry but I just wanted to laugh the whole time.... well the whole 2 minutes.

I've done it in a storage locker, he was hot and very well endowed. I got nothin. There was no true emotion beyond "you're cute and have big tits" and i like to hear the guy say what he likes about my body while he's fuckin me, not just him grunting in my ear.

Thankfully I don't have to worry about that anymore ;D