what are your thoughts about letting your significant other go to a party by him/herself? just curious on what everyone thinks

You don't own him.

My Husband and I have mutual friends together, and are friends with each other's friends.. so if one were hosting a party.. we would both be going. With that being said, neither of us attend parties that resemble frat parties or college drunken parties.. We're not into that type of stuff anymore.. So if we go to a party, it's usually a baby shower a birthday party house warming party etc. We're kinda lame. LOL. With that being said, there is no need for us to go to the aforementioned parties.. we're married adults.

@crazybeautiful: I have no problem with this whatsoever (I'm single right now, but it's never bothered me in previous relationships). It would drive me mad if my boyfriend wouldn't let me go to a party with my friends without him, and I believe people should be able to have lives and friendships outside of their relationship.

Depends on the kind of party. Dave is not allowed to go to sex parties by himself.

I guess the question you're really asking is about trust. Yes, I trust my husband to attend parties by himself. We have both done so. For example, Dave does not enjoy raves, so I have been to a rave by myself. I've picked up Dave from parties that I haven't attended, for whatever reason.

People need lives outside their relationships. A relationship that is 100% all together, all the time, never works. You need space to breathe.

My husband and I do everything together. We are boring and for 6 years this has worked for us and it will work for us. If there is a party we go together. He does go drinking with his friends without me occasionally but he feels like he is abandoning me so he doesn't do it often.

I'm happy to let him go. As long as its not disruptive to the kids, then that is fine. I think it gives him a chance to let his hair down. It gives me a chance to relax. We don't need to live in each others pockets and I don't have trust issues so its not a problem.

My husband and I go to parties without each other. Just depends on who's throwing the party and what kind of party it is. It's nice because sometimes we both need to get away from each other and just have fun with our own friends without being together. Just because we're married doesn't mean we have to be together ALL the time, that's how we feel anyway.

You know what's really annoying? When the only time you can hang out with your friend is when their significant other is working. I have a few friends that I barely hang out with because they're always with their significant other and it's annoying. I want to hang out with them, not them and their gf/bf. You lose friends when you forget about them like that. If you eventually don't want to hang out with anyone but your significant other than I guess it's not a problem.

@Beautiful Lies: I couldn't agree more. I have a few friends like that, and it drives me insane. And whenever I suggest doing something they say "oh I'll just check and see if [significant other] wants to come too"... Arrrrrrgh... it's YOU I want to see, not your boyfriend, just leave them at home for once for goodness sake!

I've gone to parties w/o my husband. Sometimes I wanna go and he's too tired and wants to stay home. He's gone to his bosses poker nights and even tho his boss's wife and I get along, I'll stay home with the kids.

We don't need to be together all the time(even tho it feels like we r). We need time to ourselves, time for each other and time for our kids. We love each other deeply but sometimes we just need that "time" to realx or breathe!

most of my partner's friends are annoying hippie douches [no idea how he even fits in there, he's a social chameleon], so i'm perfectly happy to not attend those and considering most of the girls at those parties are way not his type, i don't feel threatened. so in that aspect i'm lucky. but he is far more social than i am, and he goes to parties etc without me, and i without him. hell he just spent 3 months getting drunk in bars in europe without me lol. though that did suck a little. the further away they are the more doubts you have.

sometimes you just need to let your hair down without your partner, for whatever reason. it's not a bad thing.

anyway, it's more a problem when your partner says "i don't want you to come to this party" coz that's an immediate eye brow raiser.

We don't feel the need to attend every party together. If one of my friends invites us and he doesn't want to come, I'll go alone, and same with him. Sometimes it's good to get out and do my own thing, and generally when we do go to parties together we spend most the time catching up with different people, so we don't stay joined at the hip.

i like going out without my partner sometimes, to be with my friends and then i like to go to some things with him too. he has his social life and i have mine, and we dont need to be with each other 24/7 and i think thats why we rarely fight or get annoyed with each other. plus i know how annoying it is when you invite someone out and they drag their partner along..specially when the partner blatantly dont wanna be there. well.. dont come then? sometimes you want to have a girly conversation or a dance or to get pissed and stupidly silly and annoying without worrying if your other half is ok and not bored.

I definitely trust my boyfriend (it took time) and even when we attend parties together, we're rarely around each other. We have the same friends so even when I don't feel like going out or we don't have a baby sitter & he needs some time to himself, I let him go. He also lets me go out by myself when I need it because I'm a SAHM & a full-time student, which will soon change into full time employee & full time student. He knows I deserve a "break" to relax with my girlfriends.

I should hope that no one is so meek as to only go out when their partner says they can

parties really aren't as big of a deal as some people believe them to be. yeah, stuff could happen, but most of the time no. it's not like every party is some huge orgy.

Maybe not the parties you go to... but I can't help but be sexually molested everywhere I go. I'm just that damn sexy.

My fiance and I have a lot of the same friends, so it's hard to say how I'd feel about it, but I doubt I'd be worried or anything. We have a good life, we're happy, we talk so we know we're happy and not just assuming each other is fulfilled in the relationship. He has some happy hour things with his work, but I don't go. I'd be bored silly. lol I go to lunch with he and a co-worker sometimes, but only because we have stuff in common and it isn't forced.

If you're worried about that situation, talk to your significant other about it. They may be able to stop your fears or validate them. But if you're concerned because of something an ex did, you're no longer dating your ex so don't put that fear on your current partner.

I go to parties & bars without my partner.
The bar scene isn't really something she is fond of, so unless it's a planned event [birthday, going away party, etc] she doesn't join me.
Just as i don't join her of coffee "dates" with friends or when she takes off to write.
It works for us, we trust each other & it allows us to enjoy some "away" time.

I wouldn't consider it my place to give a significant other permission to go to parties, and I would think them crazy if they tried to allow or forbid me to go to parties! You're both adults. If you're uncomfortable about a certain party, then talk about it and reach some kind of compromise, but surely it's not about letting someone go to a party, as if they are a kid and you're a parent.

If you both love each other, then you should be sensitive to each other's needs rather than going round granting and denying permission. If your partner was going to lots of stripper parties even though you'd said you were uncomfortable with this, it would make more sense to be considering whether you want to continue the relationship rather than forbidding him to go.

Totally agree. I don't get grown adults not going somewhere because their significant other told them they couldn't. My husband knows I wouldn't put up with that unless he had a VERY good reason for not wanting me to go, but I also would never do that to my husband unless I had a very good reason.

i have always been fine with him going to parties without me until he did something to lose some of my trust last year. but he has never asked me to come with him at least once. which seems like kind of a problem

Have you asked him why he doesn't ask you to come? Or indicated that you'd like to come? If you don't trust him, then I think that is an issue that banning him from parties can't really fix.