As much as I hate a new work week, it is nice to be back on some sort of schedule. My weekend always seems to run together into one long day that's never ending...which causes me to have a love/hate relationship with Mondays. Haha
My Giants won the World Series! AWESOME!
I'm so freakin' proud, it's unreal.
I'm currently counting down the minutes until 11...because I'm starving and my lunch break couldn't come fast enough! The company is buying lunch because of it being election day(hope you voted!) and our deposits being dead-on for the past month. When you work in a finance company that's a major feat sometimes!
I've really been enjoying seeing all the photos people are posting (here and on Facebook)! That's partly why I love holidays, everyone posts pictures so I get to see everyone else's celebration. It's fun.
My mom heard from my brother yesterday. He called because my mom posted on my SIL's wall saying "Please show Shaun this picture of his grandpa! If he likes the company then he'll be able to see even more of them!" along with paying my SIL compliments and what-not...anyways, my SIL told my brother it "hurt her feelings" when my mom said "his grandpa" instead of just saying "Grandpa". My mom told Shaun that she phrased her comment that way because the last time she said something about "grandpa" my SIL acted as if she didn't know who my mom was talking about.
No matter what my mom said...or how she said it...does it really matter?! Is that seriously something to get your feelings hurt over?
After that my brother started telling my mom that my SIL feels as if she's being attacked and everyone is against her, blaming her for the distance in our family. How can we be attacking her and blaming her if she's not talking to anyone? And if she doesn't want to be "blamed" then she probably shouldn't be stirring up trouble! It's a no-brainer.
I've basically written the whole thing off. I'm soooo done with this whole fight. My brother is trying to make/keep the peace and I understand that but he's got to step back and let her clean up her own messes. It's hard though because I don't know what to do from here. She and my brother are still lying about how this whole thing got started, it's just one lie ontop of another. That's the only thing I'm upset about - being lied to. I'm not upset that they didn't want Patrick at their family thing I'm upset because she lied and told me it was okay that he goes then text my mom and told her she and my brother were dissapointed Patrick was going.
Then they started telling me how they accept Patrick as part of the family.
!Kiss.My.Ass!
So where do I go from here?
I know I'll never get an appology out of her, I know she'll never admit she had any part in this whole thing, and I know my brother will never admit to himself that his "wife of 9 years" is one of the most difficult, self-centered, lazy pieces of shit any of us has ever met....even if it means loosing his "sister of 24 years", he'll never admit it.
Do I sweep this whole thing under the rug (for the umpteenth time) or do I stand my ground with the knowledge that my relationship with my brother will never be the same? Not like it'd be the same anyways.
I don't know.
I'm at a loss as to what I should do.
He's worried the holidays are going to be "uncomfortable". No shit, Sherlock. I've already told my mom I can celebrate the holidays with Patrick's family (you should've seen her face) so that Shaun and my SIL can be comfortable with the strain they've put on the family. We'll see what happens.
I want this to be over, for my brother's sake.
....but I don't want to be the first one to break the silence. Even if I made the choice to do that, I have no clue what I'd say. |