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by James J. Gill

Divorce is the best?

09/28/2016

Right now as I write this I'm upset, depressed, hurt, lonely, and like I'm not in control of anything and my wife has pushed me away from a lot of things and that includes having kids with her cause there's nothing left in the fire and I keep wavering divorce for different reasons and right now I love this woman physically but not emotionally and now she started working at the same store I work at in the back and I'm not happy about it and it pushed me away even more from her emotionally and with other things going on with my new car and wanting myself to be happy and other things I know there's the right one out there for me and I really don't go to bed right away anymore with her I have to stay up and try to talk to myself to ask myself bout did I do the right thing and I know I like a few girls for different reasons but it's hard for me to bring myself to do it or see it in my life

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I'll talk from the perspective of a grandchild whose grandparents got divorced. We all knew they loved each other, but love isn't always enough. They loved each other because they had been together for so long, and it was easy.
They stayed together 'for the kids', first, then for the grandkids. But when they divorced? I had never seen either one of them so happy before. They were free. They were themselves. They weren't defined by the 40+ year relationship that they had.
Seeing them apart and happy, that made their divorce worth it.
Divorce is not a bad thing. It can be the best thing. You do what's best for you. Not your wife, not the kids, not anyone else.
Make YOUR life matter.

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Also, if you have feelings for other people, it's NOT fair to your wife to stay with her. Granted, having "feelings" doesn't always mean anything, but feelings along with everything else... I'd suggest leaving.