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Confused and beyond dazed with a start of a mid li
by James J. Gill

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Need Major Advice on Love and Money

12/03/2012

I'm currently inbetween a rock and a hard place with my gf over money...yes thats right money!!!!! we been dating 4 a little while now and she knows when i get paid and how much i paid and she expects me 2 give her some of my check...when I worked so hard 4 said paycheck and do things with it I havn't done anything 4 myself in a long time and it's stressing me out like crazy cause I feel like i have little 2 no say... ok correction I don't have any say bout my money its like I spend money on her and I get a little in return but its upsetting me 2 the point where I have thought of just walking out without saying a word 2 her or just have a long convo with her bout this whole money situation cause a person can take so much b4 they snap and yes I been bottling it all up without no hesation or 2nd thought and now shes taking loans out with her mother and expects me 2 pay them back 4 her I don't get it and yet 2day I see her and she expects me 2 give her $60.00 and 2 get her 3DSxl out of the pawn shop cause she wanted scandle sheets not long ago and her sons laptop as well out of walmart layaway I just need the advice of the bloopers out there 2 handle her b4 I end up in the looney bin and also need advice 2 handle a out of control drinking mother

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My first piece of advice is to stop using "2" and "4" as words. They're not. They're numbers. And your writing is fine otherwise, which makes it puzzling. It's a stupid teen fad to write like that and it's incredibly annoying to read.

Second, you need to have a serious talk with this girl, because it sounds as though she is completely using you for your money. It's yours, she can't demand it, it doesn't belong to her, she has no special claim on it. And she'd certainly only get worse if you were in a more committed spot with her. So either talk to her and straighten it out, or break up with her, because this is trouble.

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You need to talk to her. You're both grownups so you should be able to have a conversation about it. Either you talk to her, and put a stop to it, OR you carry on doing it, in which case you can't really complain as you're letting it happen. We don't know this girl so we can't offer advice on how to go about it. Just that you have a choice about what you do with your money, and right now you're choosing to give it to her. She's not stealing it.

As for the mother, sadly there's nothing really you can do. She's an adult so her behaviour is her choice. Have you tried talking to her about it, and seeing if she's interested in stopping?

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