~Can Only Go Up~'s Diary
by ~Can Only Go Up~

Raising a kid in a messed up world

06/22/2010

It doesn't look easy

I'm watching the Tyra Show like I always do. This one is all about teen girls and sexting and making sex tapes. Now I still have two weeks until we find out what the baby is but either way, I don't know how I'm going to raise a boy or a girl in a sex driven world. Now personally, I've never done a sex tape and Kevin and I have been married for over a year and we are just now talking about doing something like a sex tape but we still don't "sext." (if that's the right word?) It's just that girls as young as 11 are losing their virginity! I was 17 almost 18 when I lost mine. I'm 22 now. I couldn't imagine doing that at 11. I had bigger things going on in my life like hanging out with friends and swimming and looking forward to playing outside after homework. I don't know how my mom did it. I want to know. I don't think I could handle ever hearing my daughter say she's having sex at such a young age. Even a son, it would kill me for fear that he's not using protection. It's scaring the crap out of me and I know I have awhile before I even cross that bridge but every lesson is going to mold that child into an adult. I guess I could just ask my mom. I guess I'm going to be the daughter that calls at 9pm to ask a days worth of questions. Sometimes I wish the baby would come with a manual. It makes me want to cry that my daughter could be one of those girls sitting on the Tyra Show or one of the millions out there that are in their shoes. I also want my kid to be able to come to me about anything. I don't care what it is. I guess I just want to be the perfect parent and I know it's not possible because everyone is different so one mom's advice isn't necessarily going to work.

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I'm watching that episode right now, lol. My youngest brother is 16 now, and first had sex at 12. My 20 year old brother was 14. I'm 23, and I was 20.
I think it really comes down to the parents. My mom and dad were very vocal about me waiting for the right person, but never really pushed that on my brothers. It was kind of a running joke that my brothers were "manwhores", and that made it okay.
I think if you keep an open line of communication with your child, make sure they know they can come to you with anything, and teach them the morals you want them to have, I think you'll be fine, and so will they. Things happen, that's true, but sometimes just knowing that your parents love you and want the best for you is enough to stop you before you majorly screw up.
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Everyone is different though. My mom raised my sister and I the exact same way and we couldn't be more different. She did drugs, drank, had sex, smoked cigarettes, and ran away multiple times PER MONTH by the time she was 12! She dropped out of high school at 15, got pregnant, and gave up rights to her baby by the time she was 17. I didn't have my first sip of alochol until I was 20, I've never done drugs, drank, smoked, or ran away. I was an honor student, went on to dental assisting school, and am going for my Bachelors in Business Management and my Doctor of Dental Surgery degree. It's not always in the parenting... sometimes its in the kid.

♥ Karissa

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Wow I didn't mean to put I've never drank haha that's not true. I was 21 the first time I had more than a drink though.

♥ Karissa

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