Relationship happiness...

hey there.. yes, I have read you.

Im married... I, the great marriage phobe got married finally at the grand old age of 36.

I definately had some of those fears.. for sure. No relationship is super fun and exciting all the time. that just isnt real.

but- if you are just not happy now... if you guys cant find any common ground now- values, your love for one another.. general stuff... maybe you need to address that before you marry.

you dont have to be the same. thats boring. but you need to be looking forward together!

mrs mandy moo

While I don't think you should break up, you might want to postpone the wedding, and try to settle these problems before you get married. I, myself have never been married, but I know for one if I were to get married, it'd have to be with somebody I was truly happy with. It doesn't seem to me like you're happy at all. Maybe try couple's therapy or something? Trial separation, maybe? Something so that you can see if he's really the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I hope everything works out for the best, take care, hon.

J♥me

i love you, you know that... and you know that I will support whatever decision you reach. I'm going to buy you sex bombs right now.

ryn: he's been in Iraq for 4.5 months. not long to go now, its a 6 month deployment.

what made me get married after all that time? the realisation that my issues were exactly that; MY issues.
that I was happy with him, and over the years we have been through a lot together and we still like each other
its sorta hard to explain; if we have issues, its not a closed book, its something for us to try to find common ground on. IF we need to.
I wasnt going anywhere, and we are better people together.
thats a lot of it.
i have never been with someone I felt i could be so me with, and that I felt there was so much potential with, even tho we know each other so well.

and i know he feels the same.

does that make sense?

and our temperments match pretty well. im a bit of a spitfire, whereas he is laid back within our relationship. I really have to be horrible to get a response.

and... we dig each other. after all these years I will stop to look at his butt if he strolls by naked
and i know he thinks im the hottest thing on 2 legs

mrs mandy moo

well i havent read u b4. I have been with my bf jason for over 6 years and we have things in common and not in common a lot. I love horses and have gotten jason into that and dogs. Its been his idea for us to get a horse at the farm i work at yay. I do hope that u r able to talk to isaac to let him know whats bothering you. I know its great ur getting married and hes paying for things, but that shouldnt be why u marry him. I hope for the best with u and isaac. Take care and Have a great day.
Love,
Jess

Jessbabyblue

I agree with J♥me. You might want to maybe just postpone the wedding at first. See if you guys can work things out. You definitely should talk to Isaac about this. Don't just leave him a note; get him to sit down and talk to you. He probably doesn't realise how serious the situation is.
You don't want to get married and be stuck in an unhappy relationship. It wouldn't be fair to either one of you.

I really, really hope you can work things out.
Good luck!!

earth ♥ angel

I wouldn't worry too much about not having anything in common, at least "on paper" my husband and I have completely different personalities but we get along. As for the lack of sex, it seems to me that you're talking about two different things, one is the sweaty, crazy act of fucking and the other one is intimacy. Every couple goes through dry spells (trust me, I'll be married 7 years in August!) but what you can't do away with is intimacy. Whether it's giving each other a back rub, or just holding hands when you go out, that stuff is super important.

If I were you, I'd talk to him about this. Confront him and be honest. Good luck!

Lady Harley Quinn