Help please :]
Here the situation: I met a guy. We have gone on approx 6 dates now. We text everyday. You can tell hes not the "wham bam thank you mame" type which I tottaly appreachiate. He feeds me compliment after compliment, which i am not use too - at all! We have some things in common - music, hobbies etc. He has a stable job & owns a car. I feel fairly comfortable around with him when it comes to my body which am quite self concious about. However, their are a few things that kinda irk me i guess you can say. Its funny how some of these things are the same that i do - that i wouldnt mind changing about myself. For example hes constantly saying sorry. Also, saying sorry for little things that i really dont see why you need to be sorry for. For example we went to a dinner theature & the table was in a awakard spot. You can tell he felt the same way. So, i just said "this table is in a awkard spot" & he says "sorry". In my head am just thinking why are you sorry, its not like you arranged the seating plan. Another time, he is at a friends house. I text him saying "are you still at your friends". He texts back " i am" and i text back " alright, ill let you visit. Text me later". He texts back " Am sorry, are you mad". I said "why would i be mad" and he texts back " because i can't talk. Do i still get to see you again". He has had a horrible past relationships with girls. Maybe, things this small would set his past girlfriends off? Thats why he feels the need to say sorry. Another thing i guess am stuck on is that at times he can be very silly. Don't get me wrong their is nothing wrong with being silly. How are you suppose to get through life if you can't let loose & be silly at times? However, somtimes i just find it to much i guess? I find also he can be fairly negative. Almost every day their is something that went wrong. Yes, some of the things that have happened to him that he tells me wouldn't put a smile on my face either. Like i said, i can be fairly negative often as well so i feel like am just being a hypocrite. Am not quite sure where am going with this entry, if you havent already been able to tell. A few people have already asked, do you like this guy? Honestly, am not quite sure how to answer. I've always had the idea that if i did like the person after a couple of dates i would be head over heels. The feeling would be so strong, that i would just be able to tell . I would have all the "Story book signs" including the butterflies which are non existent when it comes to this guy. Maybe, their just not their because i have never felt them to know them. Maybe, they just exist in books. Sure, when i first met this guy my stomach was doing summer saults [like it always does when am nervous]. But then after the second time, the third time etc my stomach was settled as could be. It has been only a month, so maybe am over thinking it. Maybe, that intital feeling of "wow, i really really like this guy" isnt the case for everybody. Maybe for some, over time you eventually get to that point? Am not sure if i like him or just the idea of finally having someone after being single for so long. Am not going to lie, this whole "dating thing" is new to me. I am tottaly under my comfort zone when it comes to this.
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If you have never been head over heels for a guy before it's going to take some time. It's okay to date a guy your not head over heals for. In time you will be, and if you liked every thing about him that would be bad. It took me forever to fall head over heals for a guy I liked. It takes time, I'd say six dates aren't enough. Give it time! Maybe talk to him? Just give it time.
