okay...I guess yesterday's feeling didn't last very long. This morning I got up and went to the gym and had a good workout, came to work, and it's torture. I'm waiting or hoping for an email from him that may never come. And I told him I wouldn't contact him. Staying busy and trying to think of other things only lasts for so long. I got this email because I was surfing the net on "how to get over a break-up"...and it said this...
1. Acknowledge your pain.
Acknowledging your pain while not drowning in it is your first step
to healing your broken heart. Give yourself permission to grieve the
loss of the relationship, even if you were the one who left, and
also give yourself permission to reach out to people who uplift you.
2. Accept the reality of your situation.
Don't see your situation worse than or better than it was. When
there is a relationship breakup or divorce, you might be living with
a lot of what ifs and wishing that it was different or the way it
used to be.
You might be seeing yourself as a victim or feeling very guilty.
Bringing yourself into the reality of the present moment without
making up untrue stories about your situation is one of the biggest
things you can do.
3. Realize what you learned by being in this relationship.
There are always gifts that come with any relationship. It might be
some realization that you learned about yourself, what you want, or
what you don't want in your life. How did this relationship make you
stronger or even a better person?
Be angry if you need to but allow it to pass through your body
without hanging onto it. Go outside and take a walk if you need
to shift your attention to something other than how you've been
hurt.
4. Take time to discover who you are now that you are no longer in
that relationship and what you want for your future.
What interests do you have that you have ignored for a long time?
What things have you not done for yourself that you would like to do
again? How can you love yourself? Getting to know you and what you
want for your future is vital to your getting over a breakup or
divorce.
(So I think I've acknowledged my pain...or at least somewhat...I dont think I've accepted the situation yet though! And yesterday I felt like I had learned from it but I can't get rid of the hoping for another chance. When do you stop and say okay...it's time to move on? Or is that time now? Or do I just accept it, don't even think about that I may have another chance, and try to just get over the pain for now and try and just get back to regular life? ) |
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