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The hospital plan
I went to my appointment to see my adoption counselor, and she went over a hospital plan with me.
There was so many things to choose, and make a decision on.
I guess I thought that the adoptive parents would make a lot of the decisions, but everything boils down to me.
I couldn't believe that I get to decide if I want the baby to be circumsized (I chose too, but said that if the adoptive parents didn't want him to be, I would change it.)
I also got to decide on if I want the baby to have his Hepatites vaccination, which I chose to do.
One of the questions was if I wanted to bring the 'first picture' outfit, or if I wanted the adoptive parents too. I chose for them too.
I'm not trying to be mean, but I was getting slightly mad because I didn't want to have all these rights and decisions to make.
I'm trying my hardest to make this an experience for the adoptive parents, not for me.
It's hard for me to make these decisions.
I didn't grow up around pregnant women. If someone from my family was pregnant, I heard that they were pregnant, but when I saw them only on the holidays, they already had the baby and I didn't hold it.
I didn't think that I should have been making all the decisions. Some of the questions pertained to the adoptive parents, such as if I wanted their family to be there, or when I want to see the baby.
I wanted it to be up to the adoptive parents on if they wanted their family there or not. I cannot really tell someone that their family cannot be there, no parents or siblings, but yet mine can and will be. I would think that since this is going to be their first baby, they would want their parents there at least.
I am planning on having another meeting with the adoptive parents, just the adoptive mother and I at least by ourselves if the adoptive father can't make it, and I really am going to run some of these things by them to get their preference.
I know that with the hospital giving me all the rights that they are trying to respect me, but it was hard for me to make those decisions.
They were ones that I haven't even thought of, and I'm still not sure if they are the best answers.
The adoption plan
I also have to make up the semi-open adoption plan, and be prepared with that.
How often do I want pictures?
How often do I want letters?
Do I want visitation?
How long do I want to receive pictures?
How often do I want to receive letters?
These are the questions I know are going to be asked, but I'm not sure if there are other questions I need to consider and answer.
I don't want everything to be so freaking complicated and I'm having a hard time finding helpful websites online.
I guess I'll just be taking it one step at a time, along with trying to be patient with people I don't know. (My adoption counselor said that it is my hormones acting up.)
I about booted a lady out of my mom's way in the grocery store.
The lady wasn't looking when she was coming out of the aisle with her cart, and cut my mom off; which then made me get cut off and I was not a happy pregnant woman.
I also have to try and get a hold of the birthfather, since I think he thought he is being sent the papers to sign, but the adoption counselor said she wants to meet with him, which he won't be thrilled about.
I am also waiting on a phone call from my adoption counselor, since I told them that I am for sure when it comes to the adoptive parents.
I wanted to see if the adoptive mother (who has the day off the same day as my doctor's appointment) wanted to come with me so she could listen to the heartbeat (the adoptive father might be working) and then maybe all of us go out to dinner and talk.
Im planning on running some questions by her about the hospital plan, since I'm not very confident about the decisions.
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