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Hmm I think I should write since I got a few hours of quiet time
John’s date
My best friend John, the one who got a divorce last year and has two kids… He has spent most of his reintegration to single life, sleeping with random women. I know about them all in some details because he calls me between 1-3AM when he’s on his way home, to tell me about them. However, after taking this one lady out to dinner and dessert, took her to a cigar bar even though she doesn’t smoke. John charmly got her to smoke a small flavored cigar and she enjoyed it. After that they went back to her place and had sex. At this time, he was hooking up with a women from NH and went on a date with a woman who’s family owns a dough shop that John is a frequent visitor and has been for most of his life… but this other lady went out with John again. I learned she was a lawyer and has to eat gluten free(GF), like my mom so John being the caring person he can be when he wants to, looked up restaurants who are GF friendly and took her to those places.
I got a call Tuesday about 1pm… I’ll skip over the part which shows John’s jerk side, even though he took it to an extreme, he asked me if I wanted to go out with him and Lauren to Su Changs. I was excited, I was going to meet his new gf. I did email him a bit later and said “did you mean Oyes? I don’t thing Su Chang is GF” he said yes. So John picked me up and we met Lauren at the restaurant. She was at the bar because she’s a big Bruins fan and the B’s are in the playoffs. So we ended up eating in the bar. Oh, on the way in, John said to me “do we want to take bets if she’ll wave to you?” he laughed and I just shook my head. Introductions aside, and no she didn’t wave, and although I have seen all sides of John, I saw a side I rarely see, a talkative, upbeat, charming John. Aka he was happy. He was good about keeping us both in the conversation. However, he managed to always talk about himself somehow in each story. She told me a few stories of when he visited her at work. I heard a story of him leaving bread crumbs behind when he sleeps over. Told a story about how he got her a pair of shoes and they were in Boston and some woman walked up to them on the street and said she loves those sneakers, how does she like them. John was impressed that she “learned” how to point out the good things about the sneakers. John told a few stories to her about being with me and my family. John showed his jerk side a lot and she laughed. She has the same stupid sense of humor so that’s good for him. She ordered her GF food and John ordered for us and said to the bar tender “she is selfish, she doesn’t share” she laughed and I was like… WTF? In side. She’s not GF by choice. So I thought that was a very jerkish thing to say but like I said, she laughed. Gosh, this is pretty long already. So hmm John paid for dinner and turned to me and said you’re paying for ice cream. We went in John’s car, all of us, and went to an ice cream shop. The caring John read me the 5 or so flavors he knows I would like and skipped over the ones I wouldn’t. He saw they had slush. He asked if they had grape, the guy said they didn’t but will get it in next week. John said ok, I’ll wait. And Just stood there for a long quiet moment when the guy said what else could I get you? … I gave John a $20. He lead me to a table and went back to get the ice cream. He said that they have candy here and when I was done with my ice cream, he wanted to give me a candy to figure it out. Lauren and John were talking about it but I figured it out way before he gave it to me. He said he wanted me to put 3 in my mouth at once. I said (for the second time that night) sure, I’d do any for you. I ended up putting two in my mouth and said “I KNEW IT!” it was warheads.
We stayed there for about 20 minutes chatting, well, John doing most of the talking. We drove back to the restaurant and dropped her off at her car. I said my bye and she did too. John said to her, after a kiss, I will see you in a little bit. John drove me home, nothing much was said, I told him before I got out that she’s nice and appreciates your stupid sarcasm, and that I was happy for him. He thanked me for coming out with him tonight.
Other’s dates
Ok, I know for the last 22 years I’m the friend that people come to, to tell me all their both good and bad stories when it comes to relationships-dating. I feel special being that person. I try not to let it get to me when people talk about sex things, but it’s difficult since it’s been many years since I’ve had it and people make it seem so easy to get sex. It’s even more difficult when you hear about sex things or even just dating stories, when I wish I was the person they were talking about. I wish I was the one who they were giddy about going out on a date with or who they had a 3some with or they had amazing earth shattering orgasmic sex with.
It’s especially difficult when one of the people is my friend Kayci who I’m visiting in MN. I’m thrilled she has a date Friday night but I’m sad for me. The other person is Dominique, the lady I reconnected with last month after 10 years of not talking. She’s making all these plans for me to come out to visit her next year in Arizona, so far she has me visiting for a week to do everything she’s planning. She tells me today she has a date Saturday night. She’s excited about it. I’m happy for her but once again, I’m sad for me.
It’s not like I’m not trying. I was chatting with a lady on okcupid all day Sunday, Monday I tried to chat but only got one word responses so thought if she wants, she can contact me. I’ don’t like one word responses after a day of conversations and she didn’t write me back.
And both Kayci and Dominique more so Dominique, have random sex. I’m happy their getting theirs but I wish I was that person.
Atlanta May 2-4
I’ll be there for about 48 hrs. I’m going to hang out with two on line friends both separately and together. It’s strange how well it all worked out. We’re going to a Braves game both nights I’m there. I’m also going to the Coke Factory and some famous restaurant, I have to ask what the name is again.
Dallas May 10-14
Baseball tickets are in hand. I promised I’d take Lisa to Olive Garden for dinner since her husband doesn’t like it there. We’re also doing our little adventure which I’m keeping my poker face on about but she isn’t doing so well…I think she told her mom, her cousin and at least 1 other friend I know about. Besides that, we’ll hang out by the pool. It will be relaxing-fun.
Minnasota 14-17
Baseball tickets are in hand. I do want to buy her a t-jersey of her favorite player. I like surprising people.
I know we’re going to spend a day at the Mall of America and to the “sculptured garden” but not sure what else we’ll do. We’re sharing a hotel room but as much as I would love for something to happen I wouldn’t put a dollar on it.
Work
Right now it’s just chaos. I’m trying to keep things as normal as I can, as routine as I can for the clients but it’s very difficult when you have people not doing their jobs or doing it half-ass. I have no one to complain to since the person who is overseeing the house is overseeing two houses and I only saw him 2 times in the 4 weeks ? once when he was introduced to the residents and yesterday during a IAP meeting for a client. I’m just trying to ride it out but it’s frustrating.
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