Caught In Between Girlfriends...

talk to her parents.. Let them know what's up. U want to move on but she keeps threatening u.

Dont you think when she catches you cheating it will hurt her more then if you just dump her?



♥Mindi

○Mindi

just leave. she's not your problem. if you think she'll harm herself, just tell her family or friends that they need to keep an eye on her.

i have no sympathy for cheaters. here's what you do: the right thing. asshat.

I've been there. I got told that they'd kill themselves if I left. And then, when that didn't work, that they'd kill me. And when I stopped even caring about that, they threatened to kill my family.
Look. If she does hurt herself, that's not your responsibility. And it's possible that she'll try. But that's her choice. You can't keep hurting yourself, because she might.
And it's only might. Honestly, the kind of people who make that threat rarely follow through. Dying isn't the point, it's jerking people's chains.
So leave. If she makes that threat again, hang up the phone, or leave the house, and immediately call 911 or whatever the emergency number is in your country. Tell her that's what you're going to do. Say something like, "I can't do this anymore, so I'm still leaving, but if you're going to try to hurt yourself, I have to turn you in. You need help."
I do understand. I really do. Sometimes, cheating is the thing that let's you off the hook... that you can use to force them to leave you, so they feel in control and leave you the hell alone. I don't know if you want to play that card. I don't know how dangerous she is to you.
There are abuse hotlines. Call one. Even though you feel like it's not that bad, or there are people who need it worse. Maybe that's true, but you need it too. They can help you, if it goes completely to shit and you need to get the law involved.
People who haven't been in abusive relationships really don't understand how hopeless leaving can be. I personally feel that hardcore abuse is the one thing that justifies cheating, just to feel a little worthwhile, just to wake up in the morning.
You can do it, if you want to. You're not stupid for ending up in this situation. You're not stupid for staying. But you deserve better. I don't know you and it doesn't matter. Everyone deserves better than that kind of bullshit.

I totally agree with your comment!♥
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[Bellatrix|0 likes] [|reply]

Comment full of win.

Just leave her. Or, let her find out that you've cheated. She'll think your a dirtbag and leave you, feeling like the victim, but... Oh well. She doesn't sound like she's really interested in hurting herself, but she DOES sound manipulative. I wouldn't worry too much.

Not to sound unkind, but people who tell other people they're going to kill themselves are usually just doing it for attention. My ex used to do that to me, along with lots of other bad things, until finally I couldn't handle it anymore. At one point I even told him to go kill himself if that's what he really wanted. Now we're apart, but still friends, and he has a beautiful little girl and new wife that he turned his life around for. Sometimes leaving a person is the best thing you can do for them because it forces them to rely on themselves and figure out what's really important to them.

Sometimes leaving a person is the best thing you can do for them because it forces them to rely on themselves and figure out what's really important to them. - I agree.

[lithium layouts.|0 likes] [|reply]

Great advice and information from "a little one". I 100% agree. You can break the cycle...you just have to do it and get help so that if she were to do something, you can realize that it was not your fault and not your problem. Good luck!

I've been in an abusive relationship before and it was very hard to leave. I'm sorry you are going through this. I think talking to her parents about her behavior and issues is a good start and probably tell them how you feel. I hope your girlfriend doesn't find out you have been cheating on her because I think that will set her off even more. I hope you get things straightened out.

When you figure it out let me know.....I'm in a similar situation. cept i'm not cheating...