Cheater?

Water under the bridge, I say. Don't worry about it unless it starts again.

[polywog|0 likes] [|reply]

It's in the past and it was before a 2 year break up. Why bring up dirty laundry especially if its way old? What matters is that he's not doing that NOW.

foreverglow

If you were on a break, then you were on a break. It's ridiculous that a person could be broken up with someone, but expect the other to remain "faithful" during that time. Why should you be mad? Did you not see anyone during that time, stay celibate, etc? Even so, why do you think you have the right to expect anything of him when you're broken up?

kein mitleid

It was before they broke up not while they were broken up

He did it while I was his girlfriend (officially) not during the breakup. I wouldn't care at all if it happened after we ended it.

Sounds to me like you're as level headed about it as it comes. Not much to do about it now, no reason to get overly pissed and ruin what you DO have now, ya know? Water under the bridge.

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Thanks everyone. I was confused about the situation. I figured since it was such a long time ago that it is water under the bridge, but I also didn't want to be made out as a fool.

Thanks again! Your comments helped me

Y'all are in a good place now. It seems like the reason you're not upset about it is not only because it was 2yrs ago but also because it seems obvious that during that 2yr split he got whatever he need worked out, worked out. Y'all are good, don't let old shit ruin that.

Definitely water under the bridge. It happened ages ago, if you're sure he's not up to the same shit, shouldn't matter what happened in the past, ya'll broke up, got over it, got back together. If you love something let it go, if it comes back, grab it!

I think you're right not to be mad. It was wrong, but it was also a long time ago and you both broke up and had a chance to change. On the other hand, if he's sneaky, there's always the chance that he still IS, so if I were in your shoes, I would mention it casually (not in an 'I'm mad at you' way, but more of a 'just so you know, I found this, and it better not happen again' way), and then just leave it alone. Just so he knows you do pay attention

I think it's not okay that he did that. It would be different if he was doing that when you two broke up though. Hopefully he doesn't do that again to you.

You are probably not upset becuase it is in the past and you have a solid commitment now. But...will this cause a trust issue? If it does...confront him gently and get past it.

You want to be worried about it because you feel like it's normal to be upset about it, but there's really nothing to be upset about.

Because it wasnt the relationship your in now. You guys broke up for a reason, and for 2 years so it wasnt a short amount of time. What he did before doesnt really have any impact on the relationship you guys have now

if it happened before you guys broke up, i wouldn't get upset about it now. i know it would feel weird, but if you broke up that's obviously how he felt then. bringing it up will just cause an argument and piss you both off.

if you don't feel threatened, and are happy with him, then i would forget about it! if you're happy, be happy. but if you do start suspecting that he is up to his old ways, then address them