I've been dating someone for over 6 months now. He's been a friend of the family for 6 years come March 1. He's an ex of my sister's, which is bad of me. Horrible.
The first problem was he was/is a huge stoner. I have nothing against pot smoking at all, until that PLANT becomes more important than me. That's when I don't like it. He quit for me, supposedly. But then I caught him in the act. Ever since then he's been asking how mad I would get if he did it. I reply with something along the lines of "Why? Have you or you plan on it?" And he says it just depends on how mad I get... Like as long as he knows I won't get mad enough to where I leave, he'll do it whether I like it or not. Wow.
Then, he's the kind to say he wants to get married, have kids, etc and I'm only 18. But I got to thinking about the slim chance of us getting married is, and realized there's no way in hell my dad would be there for me. And that's really important to me, no matter how much I don't like my dad, I want him and my step-dad to walk me down the aisle.
Then, there's the whole thing with since he is an ex of my sister's, I have been hiding this relationship this entire time. I don't like having to do that, but I don't have to courage to do anything about it.
I broke up wth him before and it about killed him. My feelings for him aren't nearly as strong as they were 6 months ago, but I don't want to hurt him.... |
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So you're basically his crutch right now? Not to say that he doesn't care about you, because I believe from what you've written that he does. But can you really sacrifice your happiness and future so that he can stay happy? Come on. You know your happiness comes first!
