So as you all know (or at least some) I have an 18 year old sister who has put my family through a LOT of grief.
Well last Friday, she informed us she was 7 weeks pregnant. Everyone in my family isn't thrilled. Beth (my sister) isn't really the most independent person. She doesn't have the sence enough to know she needs to bathe daily, brush her teeth, do her hair, and so one. Basically, she just can't take care of herself. She was working at Wendy's until today where, they all of a sudden (according to her) terminated her. That's what she gets for calling in more than 2 times a week! She hasn't been able to hold a job EVER!
To top it all off, she is living in an apartment with about 10 people (including her boyfriend and herself). He boyfriend is a low life scum bag who is calling her daily but won't come home because he has to deal with the fact she is pregnant. He is currently staying with another woman and her child (who are not family) and tells Beth that she is just a friend. We all know this is his "side woman". The sad thing about it all, is he has cheated on Beth more time than I can count on my hands and toes, and she believes EVERY word he tells her.
Today she was trying to cry the blues to me because her and dip shit have 2 dogs together, whom they can NEVER feed, and said she needed a cage for her pit bull, and a lease for her lab mix, and how she needed food. I told her to be fair to those dogs, and give them to a home where someone can care for them better. She got upset at me and started crying. How can she take care of a baby if she can't care for a dog, or HERSELF? I'm just sooooo grrrrr FRUSTRATED!!!!!
She will call my family and cry and cry how she is hungry and how horrible her life is, and how she thinks Corey (her boyfriend) is cheating on her, and it's to the point where my family has pretty much tossed her to the side because she won't help herself. I mean what can you do? She doesn't listen, and when you try to tell her how it is, she thinks you are just being mean to her, and you don't know what your talking about.
The thing I'm so sad about is that she is bringing a baby into the world, whom she nor her boyfriend will ever be able to care for. Beth isn't even 3 months pregnant and I already feel bad for the child. She can't get her life together, and her boyfriend isn't going to stick around. She won't listen to any of us. She can't even feed herself, keep a job, have a stable relationship with her boyfriend, why does she think it's ok to keep the baby? I'm not saying for her to have an abortion, but why not put the child up for adoption to a loving family who has the means to provide for the child and give it a life it deserves?
She thinks that no one in the family wants her to have the baby because it's mixed. She's white and her boyfriend is black. As we've told her that has nothing to do with it. We may not agree in interracial relationships, but it doesn't mean we don't love her less or won't love her child. It's her life. I will love my niece or nephew no matter what. I just don't think it's fair to bring the baby into a place where she can't care for herself.
I'm so FRUSTRATED with this situation because she isn't listening to ANY of us! She thinks that living off the state and sitting on her ass is ok. It REALLY pisses me off. I'm honestly done with trying to convince her of how hard things are going to be, I'm just hurt to know that an innocent child is going to brought into the world, where it's going to have one tough life.
Does anyone understand my frustration? The entire time I wrote this entry I've gritted my teeth. I just want to shake her and make her realize...
How do I deal with it??? Someone, ANYONE, please help me cope! |
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