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I think the age difference is less of a problem than her youthful age. I couldn't imagine being married with a child at seventeen, but that is her reality. I would suggest that you sit down and talk to her about everything. This is not only your and her future, but its also your sons future, which should be most important. Good luck!
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[xo heather ]
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 she's most likely not mature enough to have everything thats been thrown into her life. a child and marriage is not something that most 17 year olds can deal with without throwing their own version of a pity party.
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[..toxique.. ]
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 Ages does not matter in relationships. Maybe yeah...because shes only 17 and your 22 your both still very young anyway, so maybe you both jumped into the commitment a bit too soon. But then u have to think of your 7 month old son aswell. He is the most important in this situation. =D good luck with it all sweet x
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[Vloof]
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I agree with the first commenter...at 17 she is very young and maybe feels she is 'wasting' her teenage years. Is she watching all her friends party and enjoy freedom while she can not?
Go have a cry,,,find somewhere remote and scream at the sky if you have to then go home and be very calm.
And dont think staying together for the kids is a good idea. Its a terrible one and one you will regret with time if thats what you end up doing.
And do you want to be married to a cheater?
Hope things clear up for you.
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[Lady Pagan ]
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If you want honest feedback, be prepared for people to bring up the ages...it's just going to happen because it makes a difference.
I'm sorry that you're going through such a rough time  you sound miserable. It's okay to cry. Try a shower, it's easier to hide the tears.
Unfortunately, this seems to be a situation where she jumped in way before she was ready. While women mature faster than men, we're still learning about ourselves at 15 (when you two got together, based on the ages). It's -normal- for people that age to be flighty, to want to be out with friends or finishing school or looking at higher education or experimenting with exactly what kind of men would make us happy. Developing our "taste" or "type" of ideal man.
While I'm sure this is devastating to you, just remember that you're young too. Very young. And breaking up may give you the chance to figure out what you want too. Go back and look at what made you want to get married. Why did you 'take the plunge" so to speak. Why did she? Was it a shotgun wedding (so to speak?) Your son is 7 months, 9 months gestation = 16 months and you've been married for 12.
It's possible it was too soon for you too.
Speaking from experience, don't let your son be the only reason you two stay together. Use the trial separation to explore your own feelings/wants/needs as well. If you still want to save your marriage, I would recommend seeking out the assistance of an experienced marriage counselor either though a professional or through your church.
Either way, I hope you find some peace.
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[Hidden Depths ]
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i think the age difference is less of an issue than her age in general. i can't imagine being married at 17. it's unfortunate, but i'm not at all suprised that she wants to do her own thing.
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[girlsetsfire ]
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Welcome to bloop. I hope that everything eventually works out for you...
I agree with Hidden Depths. This is a situation where she, and possibly you were not ready and jumped into this.
