Well, I pissed my brother off today....
Why? well, let me tell you why.
Because I told him to get a job.
He has been unemployed and on Unemployment for 2 years. His unemployment runs out in the next few weeks. He has lived with me on and off over the last 10 years, but now I have Jake, and were in a smaller house, and I just don't have room for him. He has already made statements along the line that if he looses his apt because he can't collect any more, he wants to know if he can store his stuff here and crash on my couch.
No. I don't have enough room here for myself and Hemen and Jake, never mind someone else, all their crap, and no income.
Ok, I'm getting side tracked. Lets back up a bit. For about the last year he has been doing a tattoo apprenticship. He is at the shop from 1pm to about 8pm. He refuses to work because he doesn't want anything to interfier with the apprenticship. Ok, fine, your getting unemployment, I guess you have that luxury. But he is still borrowing money from us ALL the TIME! And NOT paying it back! So obviously, if unemployment isn't cutting the mustard then you need to supplement yourself some how. No, not him. Well, now the gravy boat is coming to an end.
I found out about a week ago that Penn Dot is hiring snow plow drivers and told my brother to apply. He has a perfectly good CDL that he refuses to use because he hates driving truck...(Oh, by the way, unemployment paid for it) Really this would be the best job for him. It starts at 13 an hour, he would only work when it snows. And lets face it, more often then not it snows over night. And in our area, the last few years we havn't even gotten much snow.
So, I texted him today and asked him if he applied. Figuring, he better get on the stick, with the lack of jobs everyone and their mother would be applying.
He tells me, no he didn't and he's not going to.
WHY?
Because I'd be on call, he tells me.
So whats wrong with that?
I'm not letting anything mess up my apprenticeship!
So then, I ripped into him (still via text) I told him in no uncertain terms, that he needs to face the reality that his unemployment is running out and he is not only not going to have any money, but he is also going to be homeless. He has to suck it up, take some responsibility, and make some sacrifices. So what if he misses one or 2 days at the shop in a month? Who cares. Its not going to be that big of a deal. Any other job would cut into shop time everyday!
He didn't text me back. I pissed him off.
Am I wrong here?
Not only all this, but this would be a STATE job. It would look great on ANY application, even if Tattooing is all he wants to do for ever, he would always have a foot in with the state as a fall back or extra cash.
Nope, instead, he wants to just say fuck it. What am I supposed to do? He's going to be out of his place and on the street. He has no one else to go to but me, and I don't have any way to fit him in here! And I CAN NOT afford to support him. I'm already doing over time to cover the loss of Hemen's income due to him only working per diem until he finishes school. Should I have to be the one to bust my ass to support his lazy ass? He might be family and all, but he's had 2 YEARS to figure something out. And, he has a CDL! There are things in this life many of us don't like. I don't like working 50 hours a week, but I suck it up and do it because that is what is required of me to support myself and my family and keep a roof over our heads, and food in our bellies.
I'm so aggervated. And I guess I know I shouldn't be. Because ultimatly, its his problem. But I just know I'm too fucking nice, and it will end up becoming my problem because he'll be coming here wanting money, and a place to stay, and food to eat and ciggerettes to smoke, and a shower to use, and he'll never pay me back for any of it, and I'm sick and tired of being taken advantage of!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He really does have the same user personality as his mother... |
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Random reader: I think you are completely in the right. In fact, this entry sounds a lot like times in my own life, but with my ex-husband versus my brother. My ex is in the SAME situation...his mom supports him each month for his expenses, but he won't take jobs available because he's worried about not being able to see our son or not being able to watch him on the nights that I have class. I've told him over and over that getting a job is MORE important and that I would figure something out if it came to that. It's pure laziness and excuses rather than anything else. Stick to your guns girl! Only you can break the cycle of being "used" like this. It's called "tough love" and it sounds like your bro needs some! Good luck!!