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by -CoffeeBean

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Is the Guard worth it? Or is he being UNREASONABLE?

05/20/2009

National Guard and My loses..
So there is this boy in my life...well he is not just any boy...he is MINE. We are madly in love and we have plans and so far are sticking to them. He is graduating this year and starts nursing school in January. I will start college next august(2010) and i will be going for Forensic Psychology. Thats nine more years, that is so hard to think about. And all the money for private school is unrealistic! So i got this idea. I would like to help myself and try something new and go out of my *zone*. I want to join the National Guard...I told *bear* of this and he grew to be very unhappy. How could i do this to him, how could i even think of making things even harder for us then they already will be...? I dont understand. I want this for me. I have changed so many things to accomadate him and our relationship and i go and make one decision that does not involve him and I AM WRONG IN MY THINKING!?! hmmm....i dont know what to do or to think. Should i take the chance and join the guard, risk loosing him? or finally do something for myself? Advice please

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Consider his opinion on this as an outsider instead of the person directly related to this.
The national guard is, of course, a very large decision to be made on your own, and consider the risks and the time spent apart that go along with it. Consider how little time you two will actually have to speak to each other, and how that would affect him, even if you are trying to make a decision for what's best for your future, the national guard is something you two should discuss and come to an agreement on. There are many other reasonable solutions for paying for your schooling, none of which would hurt him as much as going away like that.

Don't be angry with him, he may not have chosen the best words to describe his pain over such a decision to you, but there's no reason to be upset. Discuss it with him, consider what steps you can take now, weigh your options, and then if the guard is the only reasonable solution left, try to give him the ability to understand. Relationships aren't just about saying what you want to do, you've had it right so far, you must compromise and accomadate your lifestyle, and if you want to make it, you must never regret any of the accomadations that you've previously made.

Best of luck, hope things work out for you ~

[LoserPalooza|0 likes] [|reply]

This is so true... I too am still in search. But i feel like we will never find that person but people who we think come pretty close. Seeing as people arent perfect.. even though some think differently lol.
And i agree with you on seeing different people is interesting. Some of the things they say just baffle me. And i hate people who give me attitude and i didnt do anything to them. Its like a pet peeve.

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I think you two should sit down and deeply discuss this decision.. but i think you should keep it in mind. Its not a bad one... but also i would way out the pros and cons of doing that too. Because you have to think if your not ready to maybe give up your life then you shouldnt do it definately. And its good to do stuff for yourself... expecially if you've done so much for him already, its not good to just do for others, its how you get walked all over... and it gets harder to get out of that cycle once you get older.
And if you want to go to school there are so many options now, cheaper ones as well. You could go to a community for a few years or go to a cheap state university.. thats what im doing right now. I went to a private college for 40,000 but i paid like 20,000 and i found a school closer to home that was like 4 times the cost, so i transfered. And i feel im going to be happier and i can pay it off right then and there before i even go. SO just look at all your options before making the decision and involve him in it, but dont make what he wants what you want. But consider what he has to say.
Hope it helps and good luck on your decision. =]

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