Good Luck! Starting Monday - I'm having a massive crack down, watching the food and exercising more. I have a birthday coming up - i want to be feeling good by then! But I wish you all the best
Good luck on losing weight, that scale sounds really nice.
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Try not to melt into a puddle before Summer is over!
I know what you mean, I can't stand glasses either. I'm really happy to be wearing contacts again.
We had a tv however I spend more time outside and around my toys then with a tv.
I didn't mean to come off as one of those people that believed in just spanking a child, mind you I don't have any children, and I can say "I'm gonna do this as a mother..." however I don't truley know, but when it came to raising children I always believed in explaining why I say "no" or why I used punishment.
And I agree completely, punishment and positive reinforcement go hand in hand, one doesn't really successfully work without the other.
i don't know about you, but im also sick of parents handing there kids over to the grandparents and going to party and drink and pop pills. step up, and be a parent.
I agree somewhat. I was spanked as a child then when I was a preteen my mother died and my father got abusive.
I don't see spanking as the first means of punishment but I don't see it unacceptable.
However I babysit my nieces and my boyfriend's nephew quite a bit and I absolutely refuse to spank them. Their parent's have told me it is ok but I don't feel its right for anyone but the parents to lay a finger on the child.
Though means of punishment and the actually process of punishment (physical or not) is something I have a problem with, with many parents I see today, I'm more annoyed with the lack of parenting and the dependence on society and media to raise a child. The bf's nephew clings to me when he's over cause I actually play with him! His parents just turn on a dvd and computer games or say "go play with your toys".
I've seen a bigger smile on that boy's face when I was play-wrestling with him then I ever have from toys, moves, or video games.
I agree. I think people are so scared now of being yelled at if they just spank their kids. I personally think that if you start time outs and groundings and all that when the kids are young there shouldn't be a need for spankings, but than again, I don't have kids. It just drives me crazy all the parents so scared to punish their kids nowadays...
I was spanked and in my teenage years I rebelled and broke the law quite a few times (all of which is behind me now). How do you explain that? Personally I had no respect for the parent that spanked me. It's not always so simple. And there are many other methods of parenting that are just as effective and require no violence/bullying. I'll be opting for those methods as much as possible.
We spank. Not hard, and only on the butt or hand when needed. Time outs and grounding, removing an object simply wasnt working for us. Nor was "positive reinforcement" to each their own though.
I also believe that spanking is necessary is clear cut situations. For example, your daughter trying to stick her fingers into an electrical outlet, she should be spanked very quickly to teach her not to do something so clearly dangerous.
The problem is when people use spanking as their own route of punishment. It reduces a child's ability to learn, because the child stops exploring.
The important thing to do is to spank them when it is necessary - for example, they've been pushing your patience and other modes of discipline haven't worked, a spank on the butt is going to give them something to think about.
I find it is also helpful if you can spank them without them knowing about it. It's tricky, but then they relate the pain to a consequence more so than you hitting them.
I really don't like hitting my child. And actually, though it may seem I'm agreeing with you, I'm not entirely. If you put your child in time out, and you do it right, there isn't a need for spanking. Spanking causes pain, and leaving the child in time out and ignoring them also causes pain. You hitting them shows them that you will hit them. You ignoring them shows them that they have to work for your attention, and rewards them. Sadly it is down to time constraints and the ability to bear parenting that causes me to resort to spanking.
'spare the rod, spoil the child' has been totaly misused. a rod,in its proper translation..a shebet, was used to guide sheep. not hit them. what that quote saying is without disapline you'll spoil your child, not without hitting them.
i was never hit/spanked/smacked. my daughter has never been spanked. why would anyone want to physically hurt their child who loves and trusts them to take care of them? how can you hit someone you love so much.
hitting in a relationship is not okay. so why is it okay to hit kids?
um so i disagree.
I was spanked as a kid, and it didn't affect my life now.
I don't have any kids, but I think that sometimes the parents don't know what else to do to shock their kids into realizing that when the parent says "I mean it" they really do mean it.
I see so many bratty kids nowdays, and I think it is because their parents don't take control of them.
And maybe its because the parents feel bad about "hitting" their kids, but if that's the only effective way to teach their kids, than what has to be done, has to be done for their child's safety.
Some parents could use any and every method of punishment, and none of them would be effective.
So, than, if spanking is not the answer, and everything else isn't the answer, than go up to the parent and tell them what exactly they should be doing so their child listens and understands. (Sarcasm there a little bit, as I'm sure no one would really do go up to a mom or dadand coach them on how to be a better parent.)
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I agree with you 100%. When I was younger my parents grounded us, gave us time out, taken a ty away and spanked us. My brother, sister and I all turned out perfectly fine. You better believe that when my daughter gets older and does something that grounding her, giving her a time out, or taking a toy away won't work she will get a spanking on the bum. Spanking is perfectly fine. I don't like when I see parents smack a child in the head back, or something like that. To me a bum works. It has cushion so it doesn't hurt a lot, but it hurts enough to let the child know they did something wrong.
Hopefully this made sense. Watching my daughter and trying to come up with something to say at the same time.
Wow, thanks for all the congrats for getting RC! After reading through these, I have to apologize. I didn't mean JUST spanking your kids was an effective means of parenting. I personally plan on a mix with all my kids, based on what works. But if a good old fashioned spanking is what it takes, it's what it takes.
'What has happened to people? In the olden days, we got our punishments, and life went on. People grew up to be good people, and society didn't complain.'
Trouble with this argument is that in the olden days there were plenty of punished kids who didn't grow up to be good people. Likewise, there are plenty of unspanked kids who do grow up to be good people. There is no 'cause and effect' evidence that spanking or otherwise affects a person's 'goodness'! It's not as if society has more 'bad' people than it used to. Badness is just manifest in different ways.
Abuse is picked up on a lot more nowadays than before too. Back in the day, because spanking was seen as normal, there was no clearcut division between abuse and spanking, and abuse was a lot more accepted and not identified as such. So there are positive effects to the spanking taboo too. It's all jolly complicated, yo, and there are no easy answers. *** Click my eggz && baby dragonz!
grats on rc. i was whooped as a kid, and i can honestly say that discipline really did make me more respectful towards not only my parents but other adults. sometimes you just can't explain to kids the importance of listening and obeying, they simply just don't understand. but they recognize pain and remember that, and that's what keeps them behaving until they get older. i had a habit of running off down the street by myself and i didn't understand what the big deal was, but i did know that i didn't want to be whooped anymore so i stopped. it saved me from a greater danger.
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Good Luck! Starting Monday - I'm having a massive crack down, watching the food and exercising more. I have a birthday coming up - i want to be feeling good by then! But I wish you all the best 
I don't disagree with you what so ever. 
We spank. Not hard, and only on the butt or hand when needed. Time outs and grounding, removing an object simply wasnt working for us. Nor was "positive reinforcement" to each their own though.
I was spanked as a kid, and it didn't affect my life now. 
Wow, thanks for all the congrats for getting RC! After reading through these, I have to apologize. I didn't mean JUST spanking your kids was an effective means of parenting. I personally plan on a mix with all my kids, based on what works. But if a good old fashioned spanking is what it takes, it's what it takes.
