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Life in the fast lane
by Pig Tails

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Am I "in love"? - Opinions needed

10/03/2011

So, I just don't know and I need input. How do I know if I'm in love? (Cause I don't want that shit to happen.) I guess I'll list some bullets of how I feel about him.

1. I think about him all the time - usually sex related stuff - and that physically makes me giggle
2. I get extremely frustrated if he doesn't text me back, doesn't have time for me, or doesn't invite me to things
3. I also get frustrated when he spends time with other girls (not everyone, but some girls)
4. I feel like he is my only purpose in life (overly dramatic, I know) - I feel down when I'm not with him, and if I know I can't see him.
5. Right now, I just want to say "I'm done" with this whole friendship because I know it's not going anywhere and he will never have adequate time for me
6. I'm starting to "play games" in order to keep him interested; meaning like now I'm on this binge of "not texting" him again because I want him to text me for once; why am I the instigator all the time?
7. When he's in a good mood and if we have a great time together (usually meaning great sex) I feel like I'm on cloud 9.
8. When he pays attention to me in general I feel like I'm on cloud 9.
9. I don't feel comfortable doing doing anything gross around him (burp, etc.) cause it's not attractive (with my other friends I don't care - with my ex I didn't care)
10. He's the first real guy I actually fantasize about and get turned on by (besides like, famous people)
11. I don't want to be in a relationship with him (I think), I like that we are keeping this secret from everyone.
12. I think I do want more of an emotional response from him.. but I think that goes along with getting attention from him.


So I've summed up that I'm addicted to him; been saying that for weeks. So for newcomers who don't know the situation (I'm posting this one entry for everyone): I've been sleeping with this guy for 3 months or so, and he also happens to be my best friend of 10 years. My boyfriend of 9 years broke up with me in April, and that's when the attraction to my best friend started. We both realized we were attracted to each other, pretty much. So yeah, what do you think? Is this love? Is this temporary obsession? Or is this a replacement for what I lost?

Also, I'm "friends only" - so ask me if you wanna be added if you're interested in reading!

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No, I don't think you're in love with him.
I think it's what real attractive feels like. Also, that "new" feeling which always happens when you like someone. As well as the fact that, well, you're female. To want an emotional response from a man is normal!

[.Amber.Star|0 likes] [|reply]

Phew!

[Pig Tails|0 likes] [|reply]

No, that doesn't sound like love, it sounds like infatuation. Once the newness of a relationship wears off, oftentimes people think they've "fallen out of love" when actually they were never in love to begin with.

Love is a conscious choice, to choose to love someone even when it's difficult or when you don't like them very much at the time. To think of the other's needs above your own. To know them well enough to know what their needs are or to desire to find out. To choose not to be offended by the little things that come up.

This thing you have with this guy could grow into love if you both worked at it.

[ Avonlea@ITW|0 likes] [|reply]

Thanks, that makes me feel better!

[Pig Tails|0 likes] [|reply]

RYC: Sure -- you've been added =)

Don't Take Life Too Seriously

[Severus SnapeStar|0 likes] [|reply]

lol it was very nice.. but really cold outside!! hope you had fun in yours!
-Jai

[Socially::AntiSocialStar|0 likes] [|reply]

I don't think its love, but it could be the road to love. If you want more commitment from him have a chat. haha. I think the main part that said its not love is you saying you didn't want a relationship with him.

I also wanted to say I was in a 6 year relationship that ended in June and I'm also not "proper and boring" now haha.

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