>.< A Bit of A Sex Talk With My Kiddo | 03/19/2015 |
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Tonight I had a talk with my daughter. She had learned where babies come from inside the mom years ago, and over the last year and half she's gotten to see many different animals being born online. A few months ago we talked about how eggs get fertilized by sperm and the process after, but we haven't touched on the actual act of sex yet. With my current situation I will be dating now, so I wanted to touch on a couple things. I told her that when two adults like each other, they want to have adult time alone together. Couples do it, married people do it, a lot of adults do it. I told her that during adult time, they need to be alone so it's important to respect our privacy and stay in her room at night because she's supposed to be in bed asleep anyway. I also told her that sometimes during adult time, adults make odd noises but it isn't anything to worry about. They aren't being hurt, they are just having fun with the other person. I explained to her that she doesn't need to worry or check on things if she hears any hard sounds, that's just some of the things adults do during adult time. We worked out a way for me to let her know if it's all clear to come out of her room at night or not. This way we avoid any awkward situations. And I told her that sometimes adults end up with weird marks after adult time, like on the neck, because the adults show they like each other like that. I wanted to cover all my bases with what might occur in this relationship.
My daughter is turning 9 this year and is whip smart so I felt this was something I needed to talk to her about. I don't want to be like my parents and never talk about sex at all. I want to be completely open with my daughter so she can come to me with anything. I also want her to know what's going on so she's not confused or worried. She handled it extremely well! She told me she understood that Mom needed adult time alone and said it was like her needing time with her friends. She also told me she wouldn't worry about me if she heard anything and that she would respect my privacy. She is really such a great kid! We're getting her a radio for her room so she can have music in her room at night as well. I always have the TV or radio on in my living room when I have company, but her own radio in her room will help as well.
I will discuss the sex act with her when I feel she is ready and needs to know, or when she asks about it. For now, we've covered everything we need to. I feel super relieved and it was way less awkward than I expected! I'm so glad I discussed this with her and that I am NOTHING like my parents. My daughter will always be able to come with me anything she needs to talk about, including sex when she's ready to start having it. It's scary to think of my child having sex because immediately I see red and want to cut apart the person who touches my kid into a million little pieces, but that is a part of life. And today I opened another door with her to a deep and meaningful relationship that I hope we build more as she continues to grow! 
⊱ ღ Belle Ivy Rose ⊰
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good for you; seriously. My momma essentially kept me in the dark too, and actually freaked out when I wasn't a virgin anymore. I hope Captain Awesome works out!!!
Ummm when can you come over & give my kids the talk?!? I know I'm going to have to do the full on sex story when she starts her monthly. She knows the basics.. 