>.< New Boyfriend! | 04/19/2015 |
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~♥ Today I'm Thankful For... A new relationship I get to take a chance on. 
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Last time I updated, I decided to take time off from guys. I truly needed a break just for me, but also to figure out how to find the enjoyment in being with a guy again. I lost my enjoyment in it. I didn't want to screw the guys I know because it meant nothing and felt empty. I really tried the whole, "have your cake and eat it too" thing because the guys I knew were talking about open relationships, swapping, and poly relationships. I was trying to be mature and have an open mind. I ended up feeling like the sex was a business deal and feeling so stressed out. So after my drunken escapades Friday night, I decided to take a week off for myself.
A funny thing happened though. There was a guy I had originally talked to on the kink site I'm on, but I was trying to "see" the Firefighter before I knew what he really wanted. So I took myself off the market and therefore things with this other guy didn't go anywhere because he asked to meet me and I said I couldn't. As it turned out, the Firefighter wanted to share me and I started pulling away from him more and more. The last time I slept with him, I felt almost nothing. Even the sex wasn't that great for me. I just had lost my interest in him over the stuff he said and what he was looking for. I had thought about messaging that other guy several times over the last month, but something would come up and I would forget. For some reason on Monday I decided to message him again. We ended up messaging all day long and then he gave me his # and asked me to call him. I did. And that night we talked for 3 hours on the phone!
Sunday I took time off and rested, I also painted for the first time in 2 months! I missed painting a lot. I was still spending time on me when I started talking to Sir Boyfriend (as he will be known since I didn't have a nickname for him before the relationship started), but something just connected with him and I wanted to talk to him. After spending 3 hours on the phone with him Monday night, I knew we had something and wanted to pursue it more. We spent Tuesday and Wednesday texting all day and spent 5 hours on the phone talking each night. That is extremely unusual to find someone you can do that with! We didn't have those awkward pauses or long silences. It just felt like we'd known each other for a while. Thursday we text all day and planned to meet that night. He's allergic to cats, and we have two, so we set up a "drive in" night where we'd watch movies on the portable DVD player in his SUV in the parking lot of my complex.
When he showed up Thursday night, he had a dozen red roses for me! ♥ AND on top of that, he had an adorable My Little Pony toy set for my daughter!! ♥♥♥ This is a child he hadn't even met, he hadn't even met me, but he thought of both of us before coming to see me. I have to say, that right there was the most impressive thing he's done! NO other guy I've just started dating has EVER done that for my daughter. And I love my roses, I don't get those often so that was super sweet to me. We watched The Princess Bride, which was fun to watch together, and had a couple mixed drinks while we cuddled. The chemistry was great, our connection was just as good as over the phone, and we were having a great time!
We decided no sex right away because we wanted to be something different, but that didn't mean we couldn't do other things if we wanted to. Well, halfway through the second movie we couldn't keep our hands off each other and oh my, did he use his fingers well! I came 31 times in the backseat of his SUV! I soaked it hahaha.  He had me keep track of how many times I came and I could've gone past 31 but we were both exhausted at that point. After that I returned the favor and gave him head, and of course I swallowed. It made me happy to do that for him and get him off! I enjoy knowing I can do that to a man. He left around 3am and we both went to bed happy!
We had made plans for Friday night and my friend was babysitting overnight, so that meant I would be spending the night with him at his place. I was definitely nervous! I went down there around dinner time and he took me out to eat at a sushi place. We had fun and good conversation. I enjoyed being with him and vice versa. After that we went back to his place and watched The Secretary, which is a very interesting movie. We had a few drinks and started fooling around. He ended up spanking me A LOT, the first time anyone has ever spanked me like that before. It was amazing and intense, and I got a real taste of BDSM spanking. He also bit all over my thigh, and on my neck and back. Sweet gracious did we have some fun! And he bruised my ass up from all the spanking. It's like a badge of honor for us kinky folk, hahaha!
We finally passed out after a whole bunch of fun, talking, and interesting activities. We slept together in his bed which is something I don't do much and was less of an adjustment than I thought. When we woke up, we cuddled and then had sex in the bed. After that we spent the entire day together until 7:30 that night! We watched the entire season 1 of Game of Thrones, which we both loved! We are going to watch season 2 together next time. It was SO crazy how comfortable we were with each other. It's like we've known each other forever. Everything just feels so easy and comfortable, it's so unusual. But I like it a lot. I spent all day with a man, after spending the night, with barely any make up on, and in pjs, and doing domestic stuff. Craziness! But I loved it!
Friday night at one point he told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Yes I know, it was very soon, but it didn't feel like it. I said yes because of all the things I wrote above. It just feels right and good and comfortable and happy. I can't fully explain it, but I had no doubts about saying yes at all and starting that path with him. I want to be with him and he makes me so happy. I like him because I'm more than sex to him and he's more than sex to me. We get along well in the regular stuff, we have a lot of common interests, we make each other laugh, we feel super comfortable with each other, and it feels like we've known each other for years. He's a wonderful guy and I want to see where things go with him.
So it's official - I have a boyfriend! Oh and I think I forgot to mention that he's a Dom too so I get both! I couldn't be with him like that otherwise. He compliments me and takes the leadership role in things, which I like. We get to explore our relationship on both levels together and get double the new experiences! I'm so excited to try new things in the BDSM lifestyle with him because I trust him and am excited to experience them with him. The spanking was our first! My ass is still so bruised and swollen, it's awesome! I love my marks from him because only he gets to do that to my body and I know he does it to give both of us pleasure. And it's a reminder that I'm his. Some people won't understand that fully, but those who understand that kind of relationship will. It's a big deal the first time! It's giving trust and control on such a deeper level. ♥ Our relationship will be so much deeper and closer because of the lifestyle we live in. That is so exciting to me!
I'm on day 2 of my new relationship and loving it! I changed my relationship status on FB this morning and I told one of my friends, the older friend who's like my adopted mother. She knows a lot of the lifestyle so I can't talk to her about things I can't talk to my other friends about. I'm really excited to see where this goes! I'm ready for this more than I even knew. Actually, I was ready for it with HIM, and that's why it feels so right. I wasn't meant to be with anyone else, that's why they caused so much stress and didn't feel right. It wasn't until I met Sir Boyfriend that everything just came together perfectly. And I understand we will argue and hurt each other, that's a normal part of a relationship. But we have something extremely good here and we both want to work super hard to make it work! So here's to the future with Sir Boyfriend!
⊱ ღ Belle Ivy Rose ⊰
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And I know exactly what you mean about seeing and feeling the marks/bruises afterwards. When I was with a previous Dom, it sometimes took a LOT of punishment to get me to bruise and I'd be so excited when I did. lol. 