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by ConfidenceIsBeauty

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Confidence + You

01/28/2009

Confidence Skill Building 101





People with high self esteem behave confidently. Low self esteem stops all your efforts to be confident.

Confidence matters in:

relationships
work
parenting
life skills - decision making, achieving, improving situations or circumstances you don't like
expressing yourself - read more about being yourself socially
taking up new challenges
being open to change
self improvement
Where does self-confidence come from?

It comes from several sources:

from within yourself
from others
from your achievements
Some people appear naturally confident but guess what? They've learnt how to be that way and so can you!

If you lack self esteem or self-confidence you must look above for the reasons. You may be overly criticizing yourself or telling yourself negative things like "I'm bound to fail" or "I'm not good enough" or even "I don't deserve to succeed". These will make failure likely.


Maybe you believe others comments about your inability to succeed or your faults as they see them. What's stopping you proving them wrong or challenging their view instead of accepting it? Defend yourself. Your self esteem depends on it! If you have a poor opinion of yourself, why should others respect you?

Focus on what you have done and you can be proud of. Read this article about how to be confident today

How you can become more confident and successful?

Look for a model (someone who is confident) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act?
Focus on your achievements and even if you failed try to work out what you did right and how you could succeed next time
Act as if you were confident!
Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready
Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life.
Learn relaxation skills
Always smile
Set reachable goals for yourself
Reward yourself when you succeed

Unsure which are the best confidence building tools?

Use any tools available to you to improve your performance. Tools could be books, courses, attending seminars or researching the internet. Try using a journal to plot your successes as they occur. You can learn to become confident I promise - so start today!


I found this at: www.more-selfesteem.com


---Kari










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I ACTUALLY THINK THE HEALTHIEST WAY IS NOT EVEN TO THINK OF ONESELF, BUT TO FOCUS ON WHAT ONE IS DOING, AND BECOME SO ABSORBED THAT ONE FORGETS ONESELF. SO I DON'T ADVOCATE LOW OR HIGH SELF ESTEEM, BUT A SORT OF SELF-FORGETTING.

[PUCKStar|0 likes] [|reply]

Even if people do not have confidence all the time, as long as they can portray themselves and "come off" confident, then to the outside world they will seem confident and people respond to that, in turn that makes you more confident on the inside.

I walk into every room like I own that room...and because of that, I do own that room - even when I am terrified on the inside. People tell me it seems that nothing gets to me, but they don't see what thoughts are going on in my own head. And that is a good thing.

If you behave like an unconfident emotional basketcase who can't do anything right, then people treat you as such. Just a thought.

Confidence always comes from within.

These are good helpful tips though!

[~*Jodi*~Star|0 likes] [|reply]

i agree with you jodi- that's how i try to be- but i focus on the inside saying "i am good i can do this- show them what ya got and dont be scared" and i feel really good afterwards.

[StaRRyEyDSupRizStar|0 likes] [|reply]

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