What has happened to people? In the olden days, we got our punishments, and life went on. People grew up to be good people, and society didn't complain. Now you have kids that threaten their parents, parents afraid to stand up to their kids, and neighbors too quick to point the finger.
I was abused...however I believe there is a difference in being beaten and abused, and a simple spanking. There is nothing wrong with a spanking as long as that's all it is...a spanking. Spare the rod, spoil the child, as the bible says. I'd rather my kids know right from wrong, and have their asses hurt a little, than a kid who thinks they are the parent. The child who thinks it's the one who calls the shots is the one who will grow up and become that criminal, that delinquent. The child not taken to task will only cause more problems...be the child who embarrasses you in public, and throws tantrums. That child will have no qualms over threatening to call DSS if they don't get their way.
Now, don't get me wrong. A time out, being grounded...having a favorite toy taken away are all good too. Sometimes though, it's just not good enough. A punishment is only as effective as the parenting behind it. Sometimes an action demands more than being grounded for a week. Sometimes, they need to have their pride hurt with a good old fashioned spanking.
So again, I ask you...what has happened to people? When did parents stop being parents? |
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while i agree to an extent... i mean, i was spanked as a kid and it never did me any harm to be perfectly honest... spanking isn't something that i want or need to do with my kids. i demand respect from them in other ways, and those ways work for my kids. they know right from wrong, and that what i say goes, and i don't need to spank them to enforce the rules. i prefer to use positive reinforcement of good behaviour, before bad behaviour even becomes an issue, and i've reaped the rewards. X
I agree with Julie. I am actual a faith believing women and it's hard for my parents and others to believe why I choose not to spank. 
i agree with you! although some people dont. i was spanked when i was a child...though rarely cuz i saw my older siblings get it more lol and i was like "hell no i aint getting my ass whooped" i saw my siblings mouth back and get whooped and it worked for me! lol
i was spanked and beaten as a child. the beatings no one deserves. i dont think spankings did me any harm. but when a child walks away from a belt beating with black and blue brusies all over their back and butt then that is wrong. i spank my 1 yr old now (he crawls out the doggie door and that can be dangerous if i lose track of him...usually that doesnt happen but i dont want him to think he can do it only when i am watching him. the spanking seems to be working cuz now for the most part he just sits at the door and just looks out). he is too young to understand time out and what it means. but as soon as he is able i will stop spanking him.
I actually agree with you.
I see why this made RC. I was spanked as a child and I agree that this works until a certain age. Cuz when I was a younger teen, I wanted anything but my phone and friends taken away. I would have much rather had a spanking and be done with it. It works especially well with younger children, however. I watch Supernanny, and I'd spank those kids. What hellions!
), and I turned out just fine. That's not to say, however, that I disagree with you. If ever a child needed a good smack, it's my three year old nephew. Unfortunately, my brother seems to disagree. 
And I also agree with this. Every kid has a different personality so different methods are going to be more effective for them. If you see your child is responding better to "talking it out", time out, grounding, things taken away, then that's the method you should use. But if nothing else works then there's nothing wrong with a smack on the butt to get their attention. Some kids it works for & some it doesn't.
LOL all the parents that have naughty kids that i know IRL DO spank their kids. It's why I don't spank mine and maybe why my eldest has never had a tantrum... *shrugs* thats my opinion from my personal experience and what i've seen with my own eyes.
I agree that it's okay to spank kids. Buuut, my godsons get spanked when they are bad and they are still bad. I think it has more to do with the parenting style in genaral, rather just spanked/non spanked kids misbehaving.
spanking isn't necessary. my parents never spanked me and i turned out fine. you don't need to humble them or hurt their pride in order to get your point across. other parenting methods work fine. if your parenting style requires spanking, something is wrong. i mean, if that's your thing, that's cool, but like, it isn't necessary. i don't plan to spank my children. i can't say, "don't hit other kids, it's wrong," and then hit them in order to punish them. i don't think i will be able to lay a hand on my child in good conscience. i won't be able to. i plan to spare the rod. i won't be able to hit them, i just won't be able to. like i said, if someone else wants to, that's fine, but i don't think it is positively necessary to good parenting.
Wow, thanks for all the congrats for getting RC! After reading through these, I have to apologize. I didn't mean JUST spanking your kids was an effective means of parenting. I personally plan on a mix with all my kids, based on what works. But if a good old fashioned spanking is what it takes, it's what it takes.
I was spanked as a kid, and it didn't affect my life now. 
We spank. Not hard, and only on the butt or hand when needed. Time outs and grounding, removing an object simply wasnt working for us. Nor was "positive reinforcement" to each their own though.
I agree somewhat. I was spanked as a child then when I was a preteen my mother died and my father got abusive.